Are we willing to settle for less - just because she happens to be trans?

[hankhavelock]

I've had my escapades over the last few years - and it is fair to say that it has more or less solely been with transsexual women. My relationsships have been frequent, long(er), not so long, deep, not so deep, hot, not so hot and in general exactly like everybody else's relationsships, I gather. I cannot truly say that having a relationship with a transgender woman is fundamentally different from having one with a cisgender one...

I guess I'm difficult, maybe even to the point of being hard to please. Not necessarily in the sense that she has to look like a Goddess (though, most tend to do), but rather her intellectual habitus... I'm a sucker for deep companionship - talk, talk, talk, fancy conversation and the building of that special communicative bond that happens when you truly are on par with another person...

My point is that in spite of the cemented fact that I belong forever to a transsexual woman and that I will never be truly at home untill I find her, my demands for spirit remain the same. Even though being a trans-woman may "put her first in the line", I will never settle for her for just being a transsexual.

I guess this could sound as if my transsexual liasons over the past years have been below par in the minds-department, but that is certainly not so - to the contrary. But apparently finding that trans-girl who rocks your world is neither easier nor more difficult than (or different from) finding a cis-girl...

Well, obviously I find the story-telling generally more alluring from a transsexual woman, but I cannot say that her gender identity otherwise buys her tickets... she's a woman (with benefits) and she has to be interesting... so be it.

I really don't know why I'm writing this post... maybe I'm once again in my limited thoughtful mood...

Peace!

H