Battered women, lots of help, battered tgirls...

[johndowe]

Hi there.

When a gg woman gets battered, everybody sides with her, and the man is always at fault, or so they say, the fact that she bitched for 2 whole hours before she got battered is totally forgotten if it is ever mentionned, but i digress, BTW i nerver hit any of my g/f's not that i didn't feel like it at times.

But what about tgirls in abusive relationships?

Where can they go what can they do?

And the cops, think it's funny, big help they turn out to be.

If they have no where to go, that would explain why so many get killed by their lovers.

So i think that if there are some organisations that help battered tgirls, it would be a good thing for them to know.

Do battered women's shelters accept tgirls?

JohnDowe.

[british_boy]

I abhor violence against women...

I can imagine that some ignorant thugs justify their actions by saying that t-girls are "freaks" or "just blokes with tits", and it makes me very sad and angry. The truth is that these brutes probably beat up t-girls because they can't deal with their own sexuality and lash out.

My filipina girlfriend is a TS, and the thought of raising my hand to her makes me feel sick. But she has a (sweet but foolish) friend who is constantly being roughed up by her idiot filipino boyfriend. The frustrating thing is that there's nothing I can do about it, but I've told my girlfriend (who also hates him) to keep me away from him when I visit at Christmas because I'm likely to break his nasty, cowardly face. (Yes, I realise that violence doesn't solve violence, but how else would he get his comeuppance in this world?)

I would fully advocate and support a charity supporting TS victims of domestc violence.

[johndowe]

Hi there.

That is why i started this thread, not for myself, i am not a tgirl nor am i in an abusive relationship, but as Bionca pointed out lots of tgirls get killed by their lovers, if they know where they can go if they get abused, they may get help and get out of the abusive relationship and not get killed.


But as for the guy who killed his tg g/f, he only found out she was a tgirl after 2 years, BULLSHIT, she pissed him off a bit and didn't care and killed her, MURDER, DEATH PENALTY.

JohnDowe.

[Bionca]

Domestic Violence (DV) shelters in the US and Canada are usually privately operated charities with some assistance from the gov't. Being private, they are able to restrict their services as they choose. Sadly, it is very common for shelters to offer no place for trans women (homeless and emergency shelters as well). Some are very supportive and house trans women, but a majority do not.

When criticized for this lack of support the reasons given are that a penis may bring up anxiety/fear to some of the women, or the fear that a violent man would pretend to be trans to get at the women. Essentially it boils down to SOME women's potential ick or problems with trans women is more important than the actual safety of trans women.

The other reason given is that shelters are poorly funded on donations with very little help from the state. This is true. The proposed solution is to have trans-specific shelters. There is one major problem with that. The trans population is so small and spread out that even in cities with large populations of Trans women (NY, Vancouver, LA) there still isn't enough of a population to fund these services (Drs and administration is not cheep). That's not even counting that fact that trans women largely are underemployed compared to the general population with the same education levels.

Police handling of trans cases are generally abysmal and well known. Most Trans women just try to leave an abusive situation without informing the cops. This leaves their assailant free to find them and revictemize.

[johndowe]

Hi there.

Bionca, i appreciate the info and stats, Thank you.

But i was more interested in names of organisations and possible legal help, so that they would know what to do and who to call.

As an example, not that i would wish it onto you or anybody else, but if you Bionca would be in an abusive relationship, what would your options, who would you call, where would you go?

In a way i can understand your reluctance to ansewer me since you don't realy know much about me, but it is because of you that i started this thread in that, you posted those articles about tgirls getting murdered by their lovers, and i took it upon myself to try and help, i never battered any of my g/f's and i don't have an ex that i want to get back with or would want to harm in any way, and i am not asking for specific addresses, but names of organisations that can and do help girls like you.

JohnDowe.

[Bionca]

Because the organizations are all private and there isn't a national registry of DV shelters - for safety reason that is public, I couln't direct anyone to a trans friendly shelter.

Personally, if I were in that situation right now - I would be completely without assistance. There are 2 DV shelters in the city and 3 homeless shelters. Neither DV shelter would be willing to take me. The one homeless shelter is for women and children won't house me. The two other homeless shelters are mixed m/f. Both of these shelters have a trans policy that houses trans women with the group that matches their genitalia. I'd be housed with the men.

When I was assaulted, I called a friend who called the cops. The cops lectured me on being honest about what I was and then went to find the guy. I knew his name and phone number - somehow he was never found. I think the "helpful warning" was enough public service for those officers.

That was a pretty horrible time. The assault and not knowing what was going on. I trusted that the cops would get him, so didn't really push it. I was also afraid that the cops would be shitty to me again - so I just let it be and eventually moved to a new city (many reasons for that move though)

[Kimmy_t]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Essentially it boils down to SOME women's potential ick or problems with trans women is more important than the actual safety of trans women.

I've been refused access to a women-only child-abuse support group for the same reason.

Hey, we're just mutants, a dude with breasts 's all I am.

[SandraB]

Originally Posted by Kimmy_t

I've been refused access to a women-only child-abuse support group for the same reason.

Hey, we're just mutants, a dude with breasts 's all I am.

Hi all.

Hey, we all get frustrated at times but the thing that COUNTS is how we deal with it.

Also sometimes you have to take a stand and not take no for an ansewer.


Sandra.