Done Here for Some Time

[Bionca]

I have to deal with assholes mis gendering me all the fucking time when they know I'm trans. I have to literally sometimes fight to have my identity recognized. I had to take a brief trip in a week for work it was a good opportunity to meet some clients - I had to turn it down because it was an international flight and my passport will always read "M" and I just don't want the same grief I got the last time.

I get to hear "you can't use the bathroom - you are a man" at work. I was refused a place in a domestic violence shelter when a date beat the shit out of me and I was afraid of him returning - because the "real women" may be uncomfortable with me being there.

Over the past few months HERE on a site populated by guys who claim to dig girls like me - mis gendering goes largely unchallenged. This is honestly and literally a matter of life and death of us. A matter of personal safety as well as dignity. When I or another trans woman challenges this we either do it alone, get talked AT like we don't know what we are talking about (you know we just live it), or coddled with "I'd never call you a boy to your face".

With the exception of some very fine guys Ila and Hank for sure Rockabilly, Angry Postman, S-Donkey to name a few (and there are more) it's the TGs who do the talking. It's tireing and it's frustrating because we do it ALL THE TIME.. sometimes EVERYDAY.

I'm tired of the fight in places where I shouldn't have to. I'll be back- I don't know when.

[ila]

I am going to miss your presence on here very much, Bionca. You are a voice of sanity and reason.

You are right; you shouldn't have to fight in this place. This should be a sanctuary for all the gals. We should be supporting the gals more. We should be doing more.

Take care, Bionca. I anxiously await your return.

[franalexes]

There is no crying icon is there?

Franchesca

[rockabilly]

You shouldn't have to put up w/ that kind of crap Bionca, but the world at large is a crappy place and not as enlightened as some of us and that is their loss. I will miss you Ms. B Whenever i was sad or upset you always cheered me up and i will never forget your kindness... Thank you and come back soon.

[smc]

I am so very saddened by this. And feeling helpless to help, except to be the best man I can possibly be ... which means never, never being like the men you describe. I hope you will return to us, Bionca.

[runround04]

I dont need to tell you, people are ignorant. Most people cant see outside themselves and have little or no empathy for the challenges that others face. i havent spoken to you personally or even know much about you, but i feel for you, i cant began to understand the daily Crap you have to deal with, but to think that here, of all places the crap continues. All you can do is keep fighting even when it seems useless and unending. I hope things turn around for you and the TG community as a whole. I believe it will, someday.

[TheSkronkDonkey]

This forum is losing a lady, an empress, a goddess; a muse, a poet, a philosopher; a veritable treasure of a human being. And the ignorance and idiocy of others is the cause. I hope Bionca stays with us in spirit and that her corporeal self doesn't stray too far for too long. Bionca, all the best, lovely.

[The_Void]

Sorry about that, I really hate misgendering.

As a side-note - rockabilly, your avatar is EPIC WIN!

[GRH]

Sorry to hear that they pissed you off Miss B. Don't stay away forever.

[Ramboner]

I wish I knew the full story but I just got here a few days ago. It's a shame that you feel that way, OP. Keep your chin up.

[Naked Freedom]

its saddening to know that u will stay away from the forum..
its not u who should leave this forum but those who have made u make such a decision, are the ones that must leave the forum....
neways i shall await ur return
Take care.