If anyone cares to they can read my other posts on this topic. There seems to be a very diverse range of responses and yes, it does seem like at times, some here are seeking to “rationalize” their desires. I can only speak for myself on this issue but I have never been attracted to men and have only had sex with cis women. I find many transsexual models very attractive and have no problem imagining myself in a relationship with a transwomen someday. I don’t want to disappoint some of you but I really am attracted to the “whole person” and not simply “the cock.” That said, I also find nothing wrong with “being gay” and if that is what it makes me--so be it. Although I don’t believe most gay men would be attracted to someone like Kelly Shore or Camilla Saenz or Victoria Holyns for example. As for the external sex organs involved… I do believe that it is all (for me at least) “in context.” When I see gay porn, I can’t imagine myself fucking or sucking any of the guys in the scene. I can appreciate a handsome or well built man but they just don’t “do it” for me. Sorry! I have seen pictures of Camilla “post op” and she is equally beautiful and sexy with a penis or vagina. It is the “absolutely totally drop-dead gorgeous tall long legged blonde goddess” that I am attracted to. And don’t even get me started on Kelly!

Anyway, this topic is obviously important for many and I myself have wondered the same thing as many of you. Personally, you shouldn’t worry if you are “gay” or “straight” or “bi” or whatever. Someone else here said that by society’s logic we would all be considered “gay.” Well I believe that that “logic” to be faulty--the issues involved are way too complex. But I understand it. I have developed my own plan for “coming out” if you will and have gradually begun to make progress. Since attending our local “Day of Remembrance” last November, I have made friends with several transwomen (and transmen) in our community. I shared my interest with two very good friends over the holidays and my colleagues (I’m a university professor) know I have supported gay rights for many years.

That’s my story. Again. To sum it up, I believe each one of us is unique and that’s why labeling is silly.

Dr. A