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Originally Posted by Creedence
Yes actually I would still prefer feared because you're under the impression that everyone would hate me.
I wouldn't treat everyone I know like a tyrant I would have a group of people who I care about and they care about me.
You said I need both but originally you mentioned I had to choose one or the other.
If I'm loved I'm vulnerable to many things such as betrayal and people thinking that while I'm compassionate I am also weak for it.
I would choose Love if I could but you asked to be feared or respected and you don't need to be loved to respected.
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Hi there.
Re-read my post, you will see that i didn't say both respect and fear, i did say love and respect, not the same thing.
If you are loved, and you are vulnerable, and compassionate, vulnerable in love is NOT a bad thing, it means you truely love, trust and respect your lover, it is very far from beeing a weakness, being compassionate, is a VIRTUE, a strength and not a weakness, those who think that it is a weakness are fools that do not understand life and respect.
Love without respect canot flourish, it is choked out of existance by the lack of a good respectfull understanding of each of the parties.
You seem to see things from an adversarial point of view, not everybody is out to get you, most people are good and decent, lower your deflector shields once in a while and take the time to smell the roses, you may like what you see.
And if everybody in your viscinity is out to get you, and everybody else, get the heck out of there, that is NOT NORMAL, it is unhealthy for you and all that participate.
Also if you are feared outside of your home/entourage, it WILL come back to you and your entourage sooner or later, usually sooner, because of what you have to do to keep the fear fresh in those that fear you, and one day someone of your entourage will get you mad, and you will act the same way you have with the others that you want to frighten.
JohnDowe.