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Originally Posted by newdude
I have been with my girl for about a year - with a stupid lapse of a few months while I was stupid and got freaked out  . She was good enough to accept my apology and we have been a thing ever since.
While I don't have any problems with porn (I actually kinda like it  ) It is weird that I couldn't find anyplce to talk about this that wasn't either a dating site or a porn site. The guys on the porn sites seem lots more honest and willing to talk to each other than on the dating sites, so here I am.
I also think we need more representation and more talking among ourselves. One problem I have is that I think it's hard to date a t-girl, but I don't want to bring that up to her because she will probably take it the wrong way (sorry baby - being honest). Having a group online to ask questions or just rant and vent and work things out would be cool. Since dating my girl I start to understand that she has lots of problems just trying to have a life and she had gone through lots of crap. I feel like I'd just be dumping my own weirdness on her. Hope that doesn't sound dumb. |
Not dumb at all. I agree, that these relationships have many more hurdles than we'd sometimes like to face. Just a few examples may include:
1. Realizing whether it's our side interest or if it is truly what suits us for a relationship.
2. Getting over insecurities about whether you're gay or not.
3. Feeling comfortable in public when people may be staring or thinking your partnership is a bit strange.
4. Opening up to friends and family.
5. Being together when distance is usually invloved.
6. Work and financial considerations if you have to travel.
7. Accepting not having children.
8. Visas.
9. Cultural differences.
10. Just getting along and growing the relationship, which at times can be challenging as we're not so familiar with how to make a transwoman feel special and how to avoid hurting them.
These are just a few of the many possible obstacles on the path, but for some of us, who know these relationships make us truly happy, they must be overcome, and a support community, who's role would be to assist and advise through that journey would be of great value to both the MELT and Transwomen communities.
Thanks for your input and perspective Newdude
Wish you continued happiness in your relationship
