Transgender Day of Remembrance

As I understand, November 20th is the day most cities across the United States will have an observance.

In Indianapolis, our day of remembrance will be Saturday, November 14. The site will be the Unitarian Universalist Church of Indianapolis, 615 W. 43rd St., Indianapolis, 46208. There will be a live performance of the play "TransActions," a moderated panel discussion of issues facing the trans community, a memorial vigil, and refreshments and fellowship until 9 pm. Everything begins at 6.

Here's a link to the site if you are interested:

http://indianaequality.typepad.com/i...membrance.html

If any of you are from around here and would like to go, "PM" or e-mail me and we can make arrangements. The Church is near the Butler University campus.
Andrew

[shadows]

I await the day when days like this won't be necessary and the women(and men) are treated like human beings without having to worry about violence brought towards them due to who they are.

[ila]

Thankyou for the information and the link, aw.

[The Conquistador]

Thank you for the link.

[Bionca]

Thanks for posting this!!

[ila]

I've already started mentioning the TDoR to my co-workers. I'll mention it a few more times over the next couple of weeks. They have now been made aware of TDoR and if they see it in print or hear it on the news they will already know a bit about the TDoR and will perhaps pay more attention to the news.

[EdwardSinclair]

Originally Posted by shadows

I await the day when days like this won't be necessary and the women(and men) are treated like human beings without having to worry about violence brought towards them due to who they are.

I feel you, and not to discourage you or disrespect in anyway, but probably you understand that this day may never come.

It's much like racism, or any other bigotry! Alas you may even think I am a bigot, for contradicting you and feeling this way. Truth is, I feel the same way you expressed in those words, but most days of my life I have had to fight with racism over and over, and I'm sick and TIRED of it!!

I was born this way, and I cannot hide who I am, I didn't have a choice, and it is why I relate so well with any trans out there. Days like this are important to slap these bigots in the face with the truth, and open their minds ! Unfortunately they are like cockroaches, if you step on them, more will come...

Sometimes it seems like I hate people, but I don't hate a soul, what I hate is the disrespect people show others who have done nothing to deserve such treatment, apart from being themselves...

[shadows]

No worries. I do not view you as a bigot.

I don't know where else to post this so I'll put it here...

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/08/fa...cross.html?hpw

My Aunt was an administrator in the Pima county school district. She is very open minded about things like this. I'm glad to read that there was at least one administrator in the article who was concerned about the safety of the kids! I'll have to ask her if she knows him. Also glad I teach in college where we don't have to worry about "dress codes." Most of my students seem to be pretty accepting of "alternative" lifestyles. I have noticed a change--for the better--just in the 10 or so years I've been teaching.

Hope to have a group together to go next Saturday. After promoting the Day of Remembrance at our university and placing a banner to Stopping the Hate on my blog, my students and colleagues are pretty clear where I stand.

Andrew

Just got back home from our “Day of Remembrance” in Indianapolis. Was a very nice evening here (clear and in the 60's). In Indiana you never know what you are going to get--it could be a blizzard, sunshine, or tornadoes--sometimes all three in one day!

The evening's activities started with the play "Transactions." Three actors shared their real-life experiences with transitioning (two M2F, one F2M) and the challenges of living day to day as a transgendered individual. What made it more interesting than simply a monologue was that the three acted out each of the scenarios. Each actor played a variety of rolls and interacted quite well with the others. Although presenting a serious message, the play was relatively light hearted, fast moving, and entertaining. I found it very educational as well.

After a 15 minute intermission, the actors and director participated in a panel discussion with the audience. Again, most of the questions were "easy" and along the lines of "does anyone at work know," "when will you perform this again," etc. Many people in the audience shared their own stories--usually with humor. Only when someone asked about how real the threat of violence was did the discussion take a decidedly more serious tone. All of the cast members then related stories involving threats or acts of violence against them or someone they knew. Each one acknowledged that the threat of violence is a very real part of everyday life for transgendered people. One of the cast members shared as how she is always afraid that someone might be following her after work and routinely checks her car to make sure "the tires are OK" and the "check engine light is off” so she will not have to stop in some unknown area on her way home. The way each of them talked about this you could tell that it was not just something they had "read about" happening to someone else--but had really experienced. All too often. It was pretty sobering. During my lifetime at least (since the early 70's), our society has come to better accept racial and sexual equality. We have made progress in many areas. The only group that still seems broadly discriminated against is the LGBT community. It is also a target of brutal violence. That really hit home for me tonight.

The final activity was a candlelight "vigil." This consisted of each person placing several flowers, each with the name of a victim, on a board at the front of the church. While we did that, a multimedia presentation ran showing pictures of many of the victims since 1970. I thought of Angie Zapata. After placing my flowers I sat back down and watched the rest of the presentation--again I was stunned by the sheer number of victims as well as the level of brutality in most cases. The fact that some of the victims were "admirers" or had been involved in a relationship with a transwoman was not lost on me either. Eventually Angie's face appeared on screen.

On a much happier note, I made several new friends. "Marg" (not her real name) must have felt sorry for the "big guy by himself" and came over to talk. I also got to meet the cast members. In the lobby there was information on "intraa" (Indiana Transgender Rights Advocacy Alliance) and also catered food and drink--Agio's from downtown Indy did a great job!

[The Conquistador]

Originally Posted by aw9725

Just got back home from our "Day of Remembrance" in Indianapolis. Was a very nice evening here (clear and in the 60's). In Indiana you never know what you are going to get--it could be a blizzard, sunshine, or tornadoes--sometimes all three in one day!

The evening's activities started with the play "Transactions." Three actors shared their real-life experiences with transitioning (two M2F, one F2M) and the challenges of living day to day as a transgendered individual. What made it more interesting than simply a monologue was that the three acted out each of the scenarios. Each actor played a variety of rolls and interacted quite well with the others. Although presenting a serious message, the play was relatively light hearted, fast moving, and entertaining. I found it very educational as well.

After a 15 minute intermission, the actors and director participated in a panel discussion with the audience. Again, most of the questions were "easy" and along the lines of "does anyone at work know," "when will you perform this again," etc. Many people in the audience shared their own stories--usually with humor. Only when someone asked about how real the threat of violence was did the discussion take a decidedly more serious tone. All of the cast members then related stories involving threats or acts of violence against them or someone they knew. Each one acknowledged that the threat of violence is a very real part of everyday life for transgendered people. One of the cast members shared as how she is always afraid that someone might be following her after work and routinely checks her car to make sure "the tires are OK" and the "check engine light is off" so she will not have to stop in some unknown area on her way home. The way each of them talked about this you could tell that it was not just something they had "read about" happening to someone else--but had really experienced. All too often. It was pretty sobering. During my lifetime at least (since the early 70's), our society has come to better accept racial and sexual equality. We have made progress in many areas. The only group that still seems broadly discriminated against is the LGBT community. It is also a target of brutal violence. That really hit home for me tonight.

The final activity was a candlelight "vigil." This consisted of each person placing several flowers, each with the name of a victim, on a board at the front of the church. While we did that, a multimedia presentation ran showing pictures of many of the victims since 1970. I thought of Angie Zapata. After placing my flowers I sat back down and watched the rest of the presentation--again I was stunned by the sheer number of victims as well as the level of brutality in most cases. The fact that some of the victims were "admirers" or had been involved in a relationship with a transwoman was not lost on me either. Eventually Angie's face appeared on screen.

On a much happier note, I made several new friends. "Marg" (not her real name) must have felt sorry for the "big guy by himself" and came over to talk. I also got to meet the cast members. In the lobby there was information on "intraa" (Indiana Transgender Rights Advocacy Alliance) and also catered food and drink--Agio's from downtown Indy did a great job!

Right on bro!

Today was a “day off” and I have been reading a booklet I received at the remembrance ceremony titled "Made in God's Image" by Ann Thompson Cook.

It is a discussion of gender identity in our modern society and while the publication is associated with the Methodist Church, it is not overly religious in tone. I would reccomend it for anyone regardless of their faith. As part of my own education, I have found it very well written and thoughtful and it has answered many questions I have had including use of terminology.

Many people on this forum who are new could probably benefit from reading this booklet. Among other issues, it addresses the "Gay" question that seems to trouble so many on this forum. I personally found it supportive and reassuring of my own feelings and will most likely refer to it often as I come to better understand my sexuality.

[Bionca]

Thank you for this topic and for attending.

[shadows]

AW, do you have a link to a generalized article about the November 20th Transgender Day of Remembrance that I could copy and paste? The reason I ask is that I am a Moderator at another site and this is a topic that should be known.

[shadows]

*facepalm*

And I am blind. SSL has a link to it at the top of the page. I will copy it from Egale and post it later today. Hopefully this will change(or at least enlighten) one of the member's minds over there about this.

[shadows]

I have placed a copy of the article from Egale at the forum. I hope that at least one person there will have their eyes opened just as mine have been here.

Aside from the “Remembrance” service being a significant part of my personal growth, it also turned out to be the “icebreaker” I have been seeking regarding sharing this part of myself with friends and family. The last few weeks have been interesting.

I publicized this event as well as the organization “Stopping the Hate” on my technology blog which is read by many of our students and faculty. So there is no hiding it now. Many I’ve talked to had no idea what “transgender” really meant. Or what kinds of “hate crimes” have been committed against transgender individuals. Or why I had an interest in it. At this point, I believe my friends and colleagues see me as primarily a supporter of “rights.”

But it has started the conversation…

[ila]

Originally Posted by aw9725

Aside from the "Remembrance" service being a significant part of my personal growth, it also turned out to be the "icebreaker" I have been seeking regarding sharing this part of myself with friends and family. The last few weeks have been interesting.

I publicized this event as well as the organization "Stopping the Hate" on my technology blog which is read by many of our students and faculty. So there is no hiding it now. Many I've talked to had no idea what "transgender" really meant. Or what kinds of "hate crimes" have been committed against transgender individuals. Or why I had an interest in it. At this point, I believe my friends and colleagues see me as primarily a supporter of "rights."

But it has started the conversation...

I applaud you, aw, for all that you have done to raise awareness of the plight of transgender people. I like that you have b een open with your friends and family about trans issues. I also like that you have provided support for transgender people through your blog.

I think you will find, as I did, that the more that one talks about trans issues and rights the easier it becomes. I have found it very natural to talk about everything trans now. My co-workers and friends listen to me as I raise issues. I've been very surprised at how supportive people are. I will continue, at every opportunity, to talk about trans issues and to raise awareness wherever and whenever I can.

In regards to the theme of this thread I have told all of my co-workers that tomorrow is the Transgender Day of Remembrance. I have also told them that I will be having my own little service at work tomorrow afternoon and that they are welcome to join me. I do hope that I get some participation from my co-workers.

[shadows]

Let us know how it goes Ila.

[shadows]

Since today is November 20th...*bump*

[ila]

Originally Posted by ila

In regards to the theme of this thread I have told all of my co-workers that tomorrow is the Transgender Day of Remembrance. I have also told them that I will be having my own little service at work tomorrow afternoon and that they are welcome to join me. I do hope that I get some participation from my co-workers.

Originally Posted by shadows

Let us know how it goes Ila.

I had a TDoR service in my office as I had planned. It was just myself, none of my co-workers attended. I had a few minutes of silence as I thought about all the transgender people that have suffered abuse and hatred. It is truly sad as I ran through a mental list of all that have suffered. I shed a tear (or two or more) as I thought of those who didn't have to die. At the end of my silence and contemplation I vowed to do better and to try harder to make this world a better place for all transgender people.

As an asidie, I walked over to my co-workers' offices after I had finished my service and they were busy with customers, so maybe they were busy when I had my service. I will give them the benefit of the doubt.

That is very moving ila. I am sorry to hear your co-workers did not attend. Please know that today I was thinking of you and those who have fallen as I'm sure were others on this forum.

[shadows]

Originally Posted by ila

I had a TDoR service in my office as I had planned. It was just myself, none of my co-workers attended. I had a few minutes of silence as I thought about all the transgender people that have suffered abuse and hatred. It is truly sad as I ran through a mental list of all that have suffered. I shed a tear (or two or more) as I thought of those who didn't have to die. At the end of my silence and contemplation I vowed to do better and to try harder to make this world a better place for all transgender people.

As an asidie, I walked over to my co-workers' offices after I had finished my service and they were busy with customers, so maybe they were busy when I had my service. I will give them the benefit of the doubt.

That was a moving post, Ila. And to give them the benefit of the doubt is nice as well, as thinking otherwise could just give you un-needed irritation. You performed the service, and perhaps knowing that you went through with it and what it stood for, they will choose to attend next year's service. Optimism is a good thing to have.

November 20 has been the traditional Day of Remembrance since 1998. Sadly not all communities will have organized celebrations. For example I live in Indianapolis and for the past two years have not been able to find a local celebration. That should not however keep any of us here from commemorating those we have lost and celebrating their lives.

Here is a link to a site with some excellent suggestions for having a ?do it yourself? ceremony:

http://www.gsanetwork.org/resources/...ay-remembrance

Andrew

[smc]

Originally Posted by aw9725

November 20 has been the traditional Day of Remembrance since 1998. Sadly not all communities will have organized celebrations. For example I live in Indianapolis and for the past two years have not been able to find a local celebration. That should not however keep any of us here from commemorating those we have lost and celebrating their lives.

Here is a link to a site with some excellent suggestions for having a ?do it yourself? ceremony:

http://www.gsanetwork.org/resources/...ay-remembrance

Andrew

I'm proud of the plethora of activities unfolding in the Boston area and Massachusetts in general. Below is a list of the Day of Remembrance events, followed by a description of the entire week's activities for Trans Equal Rights & Trans Awareness Week.



Transgender Day of Remembrance 2011

The annual Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) memorializes individuals who have been killed throughout the world in the previous year because of anti-transgender hatred. For locations of the
following events see MTPC's TDOR page http://www.masstpc.org/events/tdo. For the list of those we are remembering. see http://www.transgenderdor.org/

Wednesday, Nov 16
Greenfield Observance of Transgender Day of Remembrance

Thursday, Nov 17
Greater Lowell Observance of Transgender Day of Remembrance

Friday, Nov 18
Springfield Transgender Day of Remembrance

Sunday, Nov 20
Northampton Transgender Day of Remembrance

Boston Transgender Day of Remembrance
4 pm, Cathedral of St Paul, 138 Tremont St (at Park St T stop), Boston
Our annual observance, with inspirational speakers, community speak out, candlelight vigil, and hot apple cider with snacks and camaraderie afterwards.

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Massachusetts Transgender Political Coalition (MTPC), MA, USA
Trans Equal Rights & Trans Awareness Week
November 12th to November 20th

A week dedicated to raising awareness about the transgender community and the issues it faces, this week will feature events and educational opportunities around the state. Events and educational opportunities are planned around the state by MTPC and a variety of other organizations and community groups. The Network/La Red <http://www.thenetworklared.org/> , State Street Financial, ACLU of Massachusetts and the Transgender Equal Rights Coalition are co-sponsoring this year?s Transgender Awareness Week 2011.

What you can do:

Please spend this week and next working to pass the Transgender Equal
Rights Bill:

? CONTACT lawmakers and to let them know of your support for the bill. They can?t hear from us too often ? opponents of the bill have been
swamping the inboxes of lawmakers.;

? WRITE a letter to the editor of your local paper of your hometown paper expressing support for the bill. Lawmakers need to know that the public supports this bill!;

? VOLUNTEER to work on the bill. MassEquality continues to holds phone banks Tuesdays and Thursdays from 6-9 Call Justin at 617.878.2344 to sign up or send him an email!

Also follow us on Twitter (@MassTPC and @PassMATransBill) and retweet us often.

---

Transgender Awareness Week Highlights - for full calendar of the over
go to http://www.masstpc.org/events/ taw/

Saturday, Nov 12
Transcending Boundaries Conference
http://www.transcen dingboundaries. org/
11 am - 12 noon
Telling Stories: Winning Trans Rights Community Driven Media and
Public Education
This workshop will educate transgender people and our allies on how to
advocate, represent, and speak for themselves in the media and how to
create community driven media and public education. We will also
update participants on status of the Transgender Equal Rights
legislation on State and Federal levels.

Monday, Nov 14
Documentary Screening: "Cruel & Unusual"
Presented by TransCEND & MTPC
6 - 8 pm at AIDS Action Committee, 75 Amory St., Jackson Square in
Jamaica Plain - near Jackson Square T stop, Free
Imagine being a woman in a men's prison. For many transgender
individuals serving prison sentences, their placement is a horrible
mistake, because the U.S. prison system decides where to place inmates
based on their genitalia, not their gender identity.

Tuesday Nov 15
Saving Our Lives: Preventing Suicide in Transgender Communities Video
Launch Event
At the Samaritans, Inc., 33 West Street. 4th Floor, Boston MA 02111
4-5 pm for Service Providers and 7-8 pm for Community Members
The Transgender Suicide Prevention Working Group will launching a
video series aimed at assisting community members in recognizing
warning signs of suicide. The videos are based on the Transgender
suicide prevention brochures and are designed for the transgender
community, friends and family. The video can be viewed on line for
free on the MTPC website starting November 15th. To RSVP please email
Liana@masstpc. org with your name, time slot you wish to attend. The
Transgender Suicide Prevention Working Group is made up of MTPC,
Fenway Health, Samaritans, Inc., Mass DPH, and local community
members.

Thursday, Nov 17
BAGLY Homecoming
Calling All Homecoming Kings, Queens and In-betweens: Come Home to
BAGLY! (or join us for the first time). No fuss, no muss evening. Come
as you are and enjoy drinks, food, entertainment and no speechifying.
21+ Only. 6-9pm, Club Cafe, 209 Columbus Ave., Boston

Friday, November 18
MTPC Training: Working with Transgender Communities
11 am - 12:30 pm at 14 Beacon St, Boston MA
MTPC will be providing a free introductory training, Working with
Transgender Communities for organizations and service providers.
Transgender people may face obstacles and barriers because of
misunderstanding or lack of knowledge when trying to access services
and resources. This workshop will provide cultural information about
transgender communities. This training is free, but space is limited
to the first 25 people, please RSVP to jesseb@masstpc. org by Nov 15th
to reserve your seat.

Thank you to our sponsors:

ACLU of Massachusetts and State Street Corporation

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Here is a link to a site listing events all around the world.

http://www.transgenderdor.org/?p=62

I see that Indianapolis will have an event this year:

Indianapolis, Indiana, USA
Saturday, November 19, 2011 at 6:00-8:00 PM
The Basile Opera Center
4011 N Pennsylvania St

If anyone is from around here and wants to go, PM me.

[Cocks with beauty]

Originally Posted by aw9725

As I understand, November 20th is the day most cities across the United States will have an observance.

In Indianapolis, our day of remembrance will be Saturday, November 14. The site will be the Unitarian Universalist Church of Indianapolis, 615 W. 43rd St., Indianapolis, 46208. There will be a live performance of the play "TransActions," a moderated panel discussion of issues facing the trans community, a memorial vigil, and refreshments and fellowship until 9 pm. Everything begins at 6.

Here's a link to the site if you are interested:

http://indianaequality.typepad.com/i...membrance.html

If any of you are from around here and would like to go, "PM" or e-mail me and we can make arrangements. The Church is near the Butler University campus.
Andrew

Although I am from Liverpool, I think there is still far too much amused contempt and intolerance shown towards genuine Transgenderism.
I support anything which will bring more real understanding into the public area.

to all

[smc]

Yesterday, at the University of Georgia (United States), students set up a display in Tate Plaza for Transgender Day of Remembrance. Body outlines were taped to the ground to represent transgender individuals who have been killed in 2011 because of their gender identity. They also handed out information to other students.

[Alana TG]

I wish that I could make it to the one in Nashville, but having been unemployed for several months now, I drive my car only when absolutely necessary......plus, it's more than a 300 mile round-trip for me (which doesn't help).

[Marine_N41_432]

Has anyone found any statistics on Transgender deaths, comparing perhaps rates of suicide by non-persecuted Transgenders against murders by bigoted hate-crime individuals ? ( I would include in the latter any suicides resulting from unremitting social persecution ).

How far do authorities turn the blind eye to Transgender Rights by blocking events such as the one which is the subjects of this thread ?

Any good websites on the above ?

My heart saddens at Man's inhumanity to Man

[smc]

Originally Posted by Marine_N41_432

Has anyone found any statistics on Transgender deaths, comparing perhaps rates of suicide by non-persecuted Transgenders against murders by bigoted hate-crime individuals ? ( I would include in the latter any suicides resulting from unremitting social persecution ).

How far do authorities turn the blind eye to Transgender Rights by blocking events such as the one which is the subjects of this thread ?

Any good websites on the above ?

My heart saddens at Man's inhumanity to Man

How could you distinguish a suicide resulting from "unremitting social persecution" from one that is undertaken by a "non-persecuted transgender"? If someone commits suicide because she or he feels disconnected from the world and feels no reason to live, and that person is transgender, do we assume that the general "persecution" that comes from living in a world that is unforgiving of differences (even in the absence of any hard evidence of outright bullying, violence, or whatever) is of no consequence? Do we put that person in the "non-persecuted" category?

As for the question of the authorities, the answer is that in most places, the "authorities" (by which I assume you mean law enforcement) is openly hostile to transgender people, or at best indifferent. There are pockets of places in the United States, for instance, where things may be a bit better (because a lot of transgender people have chosen to live there -- e.g., Northampton, Massachusetts), but the general rule is that the "authorities" reflect the worst impulses to be found in the general public.

[KittyKaiti]

??
Bronx, New York, USA
Will be hosting a Transgender Day of Remembrance event
on Sunday, November 20, 2011 at Bronx community Pride Center
from 9:00 ? 11:00 PM
There will be a candlelight vigil and reading of the names
with refreshments to follow.
For more information contact Savannah Hornback shornback@bronxpride.org
??
Buffalo, New York, USA
Will be hosting a Transgender Day of Remembrance service on
Monday, November 21, 2011 from 7:00 ? 9:00 PM
At the The BUA Theater, 119 Chippewa, between Delaware and Elmwood
Buffalo, NY14202
For more information, please contact Christina at spectrumwny@yahoo.com

http://www.spectrumwny.org

??
Elmira, New York, USA
Will be holding a Transgender Day of Remembrance event
on Saturday, Nov. 19, 2011
at The Park Church, 208 W. Gray St, Elmira, NY
Event begins with a movie at 4pm
and concludes with a candlelight vigil in the park at 6:30pm.
??
Flushing, New York, USA
Will be holding a Transgender Day of Remembrance event
on Thursday Nov 17, 2011 at 12:45pm
at the CUNY School of Law
65-21 Main St.Flushing, NY
there will be a vigil in the back garden
??
Ithaca, New York, USA
Will be holding a Transgender day of Remembrance event
on Sunday, November 20, 2011 at 8:00pm
in the Founders Room at Anabel Taylor Hall
Cornell University
548 College Ave, Ithaca, NY
For more information, please contact Alexis at ab744@cornell.edu
??
Long Island, New York, USA
Will be holding a Transgender Day of Remembrance event
on Sunday November 20th 7:30 PM
Sinai Reform Temple
39 Brentwood Road
Bay Shore, NY 11706
Contact: longislandtdor@yahoo.com
??
Long Island, New York, USA
Will be holding a Transgender Day of Remembrance service
on November 13th from 10:30 ? 11:30 AM
at the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship at Stony Brook (NY) (Long Island).
There will be a break followed by a panel discussion from 12:30 ? 2:30 PM.
All are welcome to attend either the service, the discussion, or both.
380 Nichols Rd. Setauket NY (Northbound side; North of 347, South of SUNY:Stonybrook).
??
New York City, New York
Will be holding a Transgender Day of Remembrance event
on Friday November 18th at 7pm-9:30 pm
at The Center, 208 W. 13 street, New York, NY 10011.
for more information contact Cristina H. cherrera@gaycenter.org
www.genderidentityproject.org
Event will include- solemn prayer, candlelight vigil, inspirational speakers,
community voices, snacks, educational information, resources to services plus more.
??
Palmyra, New York, USA
will be holding a Transgender Day of Remembrance Memorial Service
on Sunday, 20 November at Zion Episcopal Church at 3:00 pm.
While this service will be in the Christian tradition, ALL are welcome to attend.
There will be a reception immediately following in the Gathering Room of the church.
Please RSVP to shaunamarieotoole@yahoo.com so we can make sure we have enough food.
??
Poughkeepsie, New York, USA
Mid-Hudson Valley Transgender Association (MHVTA) will host a TG DOR event on
Monday November 28, 2011 at their regular monthly meeting in Poughkeepsie, NY.
They screen visitors for security reasons and would ask if anyone is interested
to attend to please contact Jan Brown at janbrown1212@gmail.com.
??

Looks like there is a local event I might try going to.

[mikelancealot]

I am not knowledgable about why people are transgendered but i Hav ea lot of compassion for them because it is a struggle in our society to be different - especially about something like your gender.
I think being shemale is very different than being a gay guy, and people should understand that tgirls are trying to transition to being who they really are inside. Being gay is totally different from what I can tell. What is the relationship like between gay men and transgendered women? I have been to a gay bar once and i got hit on by a lot of guys-- i was with a girl I know and her friend. It did absolutely nothing for me. The guys were so aggressive they just didn't takeno for an answer, it got on my nerves honestly

[smc]

Our annual observance in Boston, from whence I just arrived home, was inspirational indeed. Thanks to the recent enactment of strong (although not 100% complete) new legislation protecting the civil rights of transgender people, ours was as much a celebration of the future as it was a remembrance of tragedies in the past.

[jbradhall24]

totally righteous

too awesome!

[a9127]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/courtn...b_4167200.html.

On November 20 I hope you are able to attend a ceremony near you or have a private gathering with friends in memory of those we've lost.

Andrew (formerly "aw9725")

[a9127]

November 20 will soon be here so I thought I'd share this link:

http://www.glaad.org/tdor

and encourage you to attend one of the many ceremonies held around the world. If you can't, then get together with friends and light a candle in memory of those we have lost.

In Indianapolis, our Day of Remembrance will be November 15. The first year I attended was 2009. You can read about it above (I used to post as "aw9725"). Five years later I'm still touched by my experiences and realize how far our society has to go. Especially when I read about what was done to Mayang Prasetyo and the indifferent, almost condescending, treatment her brutal murder received in the press.

So I hope you will participate in whatever way you are able. And maybe, if you are from Indy, I'll see you on the 15th...

[a9127]

This year I thought I'd post this link in memory of all the friends we've lost in 2015.

As of today, October 27, I still don't know when Indianapolis will have their Day of Remembrance or where it will be but will post it when I find out. If anyone is from around here and wants to go, PM me. There are many events held around the world. The "traditional" day for most events is November 20. If you can't go, get together with friends or a least try to spend some quiet time in reflection.

The first time I went was in 2009. You can read about it here.

Andrew

[a9127]

The Indianapolis TDOR will be November 19. Here are the details.

http://indianatransgendernetwork.com...-indianapolis/

[a9127]

After much consideration, I guess I’m quite a bit different from most other members on TLB. I like beautiful women. And being in an intimate and loving relationship with one. It really doesn’t matter whether they have a “cock” or not.

I’ve enjoyed some of the friendships I’ve made with others on here. That has kept me active. But I’m not into picking up someone for a brief encounter. Nor is this a fantasy. Probably the closest to my true feelings were expressed in my stories about “Stephanie.” You can visit my blog on WordPress if you are interested.

Tonight I will be going to the TDOR ceremony in Indianapolis. Too bad there’s not moref interest in things like that on this site. There are a lot of real issues facing the LGBT community. Especially in a state like Indiana. I’ve often wondered how I can best contribute to making progress. Maybe I’m on the wrong site?

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This is an updated list (as of November 17, 2015) of all the transwomen murdered this year. Also some of the comments show how far we have to go.

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I should have added that that list was just the victims in the United States. Here is a more complete list. Several sources indicate that 2015 was one of the worst years ever. Many of us on TLB are fans and "admirers." For the most part we can go about our daily lives not having to worry about the threat of violence simply because of who we are. If you truly care about these women, please get involved in some way.

If you are one of the cowardly pieces of shit that thinks it's OK to beat up, abuse, or kill someone because of their gender identity, or just one of the assholes on here that has threatened me, come and look me up. I live in Stonegate in Zionsville, workout at Anytime Fitness, drive the black Camaro SS in my avatar and am easy to find. After I'm through with you, I'll make sure that you are sharing a cell with "Subway Jared."

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This year our local Day of Remembrance will be Saturday, November 19. You can get the details here. Wherever you live I hope you have a chance go to your local ceremony or else just get together with friends for the evening.

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This is all I could find. From 2016. And it's from GLAAD's site as well. Think that would be up to date.

https://www.glaad.org/transweek

Nothing on when the day will be in Indianapolis. If anyone knows anything please post. I'll keep looking too. Thanks.

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Finally some info on Indianapolis' TDOR 2017:

https://www.resistandprotest.com/eve...ay-remembrance

And a list of victims from 2016-2107.

https://tdor.info/

I hope you are able to go to your local ceremony. If not then simply have some friends over or just take the time to reflect.

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Today November 20 is the generally recognized Transgender Day of Remembrance. I have not been able to find a ceremony here in Indianapolis. So this evening I will light a candle and reflect on the friends that we've lost this year.

Here is a link to a site with names if you would like to do the same:

https://www.hrc.org/resources/violen...munity-in-2018

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As of October 23rd. I still can't find anything (yet) about our own local ceremony in the Indianapolis area. Ours often falls on a day other than the traditional 20th of November. I'll keep trying but I've decided regardless I will have my own private ceremony at my home in Zionsville. Mainly just friends and family. Probably a fairly small gathering of less than 20-25. The following website explains what the "TDOR" is and offers some tips on hosting your own remembrance:

https://www.glaad.org/tdor

If nothing else, please take a moment to reflect on all the friends we've lost this past year. It's been a bad one. Sadly this year marks the 10th anniversary of attending my first TDOR. I don't think that things are necessarily better now than then. We have a long ways to go.

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Haven’t found an event locally this year. My guess is everything will be “WebEx” or “Zoom.” I’ll post more if I find out anything. Again, I’m planning to have a private gathering of friends at my home in Zionsville.
Here’s a link to GLADD’s site:

https://www.glaad.org/tdor


And a reminder of why we still need to have this.

https://planettransgender.com/indy-t...ome-from-work/

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Have not been able to find a local ceremony in the Indianapolis area so I have signed up for this “Virtual” one. It is scheduled for Wednesday, November 18 6-7:30 p.m. ET. Maybe others from TLB will be interested in attending.

Here’s the link:

https://gaycenter.org/tdor

In the meantime you should continue to keep checking GLAAD's website for more information on gatherings around the world. I'm still planning to have friends over that evening.

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Just got this in my email:

REMINDER FOR TONIGHT! The Center's TDoR Live Event @ 6PM ET
Richard Morales <rmorales@gaycenter.org>
2:24 PM (13 minutes ago)

Hello and Good Afternoon,

Thank you for registering for The LGBT Center's TDoR Event happening tonight, Wednesday, November 18th starting at 6pm ET

We're happy to have you join us for an evening of honoring, remembering, and celebrating the lives of our families, our friends, and our communities.

To view the event, please click this YouTube link: https://youtu.be/E8cJ50oDznU

To view the program, please see attached PDF.

During the event, we will be offering live support and counseling. Please see the YouTube event page for links to live support. INFO for community support is also below:

Email: centersupport@gaycenter.org
Zoom Meeting ID (FOR TONIGHT'S LIVE SUPPORT ONLY): 990 6990 3118