Dating a transsexual woman.

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by sweettsuk

Jodie my dear, take that stupid cup away from your face, you are a pretty woman don't hide it

Now when are we going to Del Aziz I'm starving

H xx

Dear "sweettsuk" {if that is your real name}
This thread is my take on transsexual females reality on dating
and how the reality of which affects both said Ts's and those who wish to go out with them.

I assume that your posting on this thread indicates
that you are interested in dating a trans-woman, yes?

[davideblaine]

jodie you are absolutely right. i do hate looking at trans women as anything other than what they are, women. i do have a fantasy about women with a penis. as much as i would like to act on this im very strained. i cant move to the coast and it will be hard for me to find a good trans woman, as i am in the military. whatever benefits i would get would not transfer to any trans partner i may ever get. for the time being all i am looking for is casual interactions and possibly in the future a relationship. I have had many bad relationships where the woman has either left me for not wanting sex or bc there is a better looking guy they want. im not perfect, and i want to exp as much of this "trans dating" as i can without looking for a relationship where i will more than likely end up alone. Initially i am from the south so finding a trans woman will be hard for me in my home town. i hate ungendering, which i have realized by my past posts that i have done that.

Please everyone, understand that in my attempt to fulfill a fantasy, im looking for certain qualities, trust, respect, and above all else love.

[JodieTs]

I guess being in the military may be another layer of complication for you.
I'd prob seak out trans support and social groups on the net and interact there.
Additionally I'd seek trans social events.
A lot of Ts move through things and thus either no longer need trans friendly social spaces or they never went to tranny places in their past.
However stealth is lonely and sometime we go back to tranny social gatherings,
be they support groups, clubs, or gatherings.

So there is a suggestion.

[zoeytaylor13]

i would marry another TS or a lesbian girl but a man would really have to be something special for me to marry him.

[ross]

i would date a transexual lady whether she was pre op or post op sadly the only ones i see are on dating sites with most of the ladies overseas and of course they have many suitors wanting them sadly some for only sex or they use them for some reason. i will be totally commited to the lady and will always treat her as the lady she is.

[franalexes]

Originally Posted by Bionca

I'd also add that so many of us have our walls up due to real or perceived poor treatment by past dates or those of our friends (and our own first-hand observations of men pre-transition). It takes some doing to get past the damage the past however many men have done. Since lots of gals (myself included unfortunately) are pretty willing to chalk up any perceived slight as a deal-breaker or harbinger of bad things to come.

I think my wall,,,, has a door; closed, sealed and welded.

[randolph]

Originally Posted by franalexes

I think my wall,,,, has a door; closed, sealed and welded.

Unfortunately, porn sites including this one foster the view that most transsexuals are prostitutes to be used for personal pleasure. It is a sad situation. On a more positive note there is an increased public awareness of the transsexual community and efforts are being made to encourage respect.
Best Wishes.

[Artiste426]

Great forum here! I read a lot of it and will come back to read more. Thanks for all the posts.

[Tommy3069]

I want to date a transexual woman, but certain things have to be click before we would become a couple. She should be attractive, sexy and very feminine. She should be hung be able to cum also be open to try new things. Which are sexual fantasies you live only once so experience. I am now between two transexual girls, they both are really attractive.One is a bit more attractive then the other, but I will not choose her cause there is no connection and no further interest.The second one I have not approached yet with the things that interest me in a relationship with a transexual woman. As soon I tell her I hope all things will work out

[tiesjief]

Actually a great post that I enjoyed very much. It puts some things into perspective, and helps to show what a transsexual woman goes through. With supply and demand what it is, and the huge amount of work that goes into a transition, I'd think a tgirl should expect to have her pick of guys and get treated like a queen.

I do still think it's a little much to say "was it in the end, only about our cock?" Many women obviously are going to want to get SRS, and there should be no trouble accepting that. Still, physical attraction is an important part of any relationship. If it wasn't, then we'd have no trouble ever even meeting a long term partner. You could break it all the way down to the point that we're basically dating computers, if our bodies didn't matter at all. I think it's just as fair for a man to have an attraction to a woman with a penis, as it is for a woman to want SRS so she feels like her transition is complete. In the end, it seems some people just want different things, and that's completely ok.

I'll totally help pluck those stubborn jawline hairs.

[GRH]

Originally Posted by Tommy3069

I want to date a transexual woman, but certain things have to be click before we would become a couple. She should be attractive, sexy and very feminine. She should be hung be able to cum also be open to try new things. Which are sexual fantasies you live only once so experience. I am now between two transexual girls, they both are really attractive.One is a bit more attractive then the other, but I will not choose her cause there is no connection and no further interest.The second one I have not approached yet with the things that interest me in a relationship with a transexual woman. As soon I tell her I hope all things will work out

Sounds to me like you're more interested in sex by your prerequisites for TS to be "hung" and "able to cum." What if you met a girl that you clicked with, but after being on hormones for a few more years, she loses the ability to cum? Guess that would be a deal breaker for you. I find it odd that you stipulate "very feminine" alongside "hung" (which by definition is not very feminine).

Personally, when I dated...My interests were more about things like personality, interests, etc. I think you are delusional about the sort of "relationship" you are after.

[hard-on187]

Jodie I loved your perception and thoughts and it made a lot of sense to me,

I know I am a bit late to join the thread but better late than never.

[a9127]

Glad to see some of the older posters are active again. Looks like some of the posts are getting better. Maybe I'll stay afterall. But there is still a "skewed" perspective on dating (and general disrespect toward transwomen) as far as I'm concerned. You DO know it works "both ways."

You may "fantasize about" a blonde 25 year old "ladyboy" with a 9" cock and no sexual inhibitions ready to jump into bed with you on the first date but ask yourself seriously, what do you really have to offer her? Not much as it appears in some of your profile pics, avatars, and user names. Do you really think you are "god's gift to women?"

And a "pic of your dick"? Why??? To show off how "big" you are? Are you tying to impress me? Other guys? And don't tell me what a "tough guy" you are or that you own 291 guns or know "Krav Maga." Or participate in UFC. I know a thing or two about that stuff. A lot more than you do. I wish I'd never started that "Self Defense" thread. It turned into a "pissing contest" with one member even accusing me of being a "liberal commie" and threatenting to shoot me in the face. "Liberal Commie?" Me?

And yes I will shoot back (or first). Sorry... Nothing personal. I just don't take well to being threatened. The "tough guy act" ain't gonna work with me. And most people will think you are just a troll or an asshole. And the ones who used to start arguments. My God! Smc was very restrained compared to the way I would have been.

But "pics of your dick." Most women I know don't wish to recieve stuff like that. Especially early in a relationship. I've never sent any woman I've been interested in a "pic of my dick." My wife had a younger friend (really beautiful girl by the way but just divorced and "desperate" according to my wife) who sent a "tits" picture to a guy she just met. She never heard from him again.

As my wife once commented on the "personal" ads on TLB:

"They all are looking for someone "hot" but no one seems to realize they have to offer something themselves. I'm married to Andy but if I were single I would want to know something interesting about that person. What do you like to DO. What are you interested in? What do you look like? Can you make me laugh? Would you make me feel special? Where would we go on a first date? Why there? What do you do for a living?

There's a lot of things that truly matter. And they have nothing to do with cock size. I think what some of you are really looking for is an "escort" or "one night stand." There's lots of opportunities for that. But better make sure you can afford to pay fo it."

So I think you would be better off getting involved with LGBT and even Gay Pride events and workshops. Volunteer. Go to a bar that is known for having a gay and transgender clientele. Introduce yourself like you would to any woman. You'll get rejected sometimes but then... all it takes is the right one. You (and she) will be a lot better off and have the beginnings of a true relationship on which to build. Who knows you might even get lucky that night.

My post is not addressed to anyone in particular. Just based on things I've read for 10+ years on TLB. If we could only get rid of that shit and those users I think we'd have a pretty good site. I'd love to continue as a member. But not like it's been. Who knows. Maybe even some of the "old timers" will come back.