Have you ever slept with a tranny/shemale?

[lbfno]

I think you people are being a little harsh.

[Hung Tung]

Yes, and I have had some great times. That said I have had some not so good times as well. These have all been paid visits but none the less when she is really into her sexuality you forget that it is an escort and really get into being with her. Unfortunately these types of encounters are the exception not the norm. They are however worth finding and I continue to seek them out.

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by lbfno

I think you people are being a little harsh.

Not trying to be harsh at all and your point is completely valid. Only trying to get the terms sorted out here :-)

Fetishism is "objectification", meaning that you get aroused by particular objects, materials or even body parts. Fetishism is not being sexually attracted to a particular gender - that's sexual orientation no matter if in real life or just as a fantasy. If you feel attracted to trans*women that doesn't make you a fetishist at all.

Actually, a trans*fetishist is a person who gets aroused by putting on attires of his/her opposite biological gender.

Enjoy your fantasies and find the level that's right for you. But also remember that our sexuality is not a static thing. We change over time and maybe some day you will want to bring it from fantasy to reality. And that will be fine too.

But a fetishist you're not in this regard.

Peace!

H

[newdude]

I sleep* with a trans woman every night.

I also agree with Ila, Hank, and Jdawg. Trans women aren't fetishes and are very REAL women.

*Some sleeping happens...some

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by newdude

I sleep* with a trans woman every night.

I also agree with Ila, Hank, and Jdawg. Trans women aren't fetishes and are very REAL women.

*Some sleeping happens...some

Hmmm... with that particular woman I doubt I'd get much sleep either, mano... best wishes to her!

H

[harrypeirce]

I have never slept with a shemale but wouldn't rule it out, the thought of it turns me on very much.

[ButtPlug]

Originally Posted by harrypeirce

I have never slept with a shemale but wouldn't rule it out, the thought of it turns me on very much.

same here!

:D

[Skeggjold]

Originally Posted by lbfno

I think you people are being a little harsh.

You made the twin mistakes of saying "real girls" and "tranny/shemale". If you had said "Do you think you will ever take your transsexual fantasy to the final level and sleep with a trans-woman? Or, do you consider your attraction only a fantasy, that you have no intention of acting on? For myself, I must confess to the latter." you probably wouldn't have gotten as harsh a response.

I, in fact, must confess to the latter. It is nothing personal against the individuals who have made the decisions they felt necessary to be happy - and no doubt, for the most part have succeeded in that goal. Fundamentally, those of us who are casual admirers have decided never to act on our desire because we don't (want to?) consider ourselves "gay" - and that brings up a whole slew of angry questions, of course, but it really does boil down to as simple an answer as that.

Fundamentally, whether the origin of the view is societal programming, parentally-induced prejudice, philosophy, theology or w/e, even though we don't have anything against the women who choose this lifestyle, we cannot force ourselves to abandon traditional gender-concepts. Maybe that's the origin of the attraction in the first place. Psychology is a very complex thing; I suspect most of the lovely ladies here are quite familiar with that fact.

Whatever the case, I think it is completely possible for us "casual admirers" to stand firm in our refusal to act on our desires (you can read as much about closeting, self-hating or whatever into that as you want, but it is what it is) while at the same time not judging the objects of said desire on their decisions, lifestyle or existence, and certainly without condemning or looking down on said women.

For the ladies of the forum, and the devoted, "active admirers", try to think of it as though we "casual admirers" are your racist grand-parents. We don't really hate anyone, deep down inside, but we can't help being offensive now and then because we are products of our era, and if you can understand that, it is easier to not take the occasional offensive slips too seriously.

As much as you desire us to accept you for who you are (and rightfully so), try to accept us for who we are as well. We have as much right to torture ourselves because we choose to adhere to (or instinctively adhere to) old-fashioned, out-dated moral codes and world-views as you do to live your life as the person you want to be.

[baasje43]

Just had breakfast and checking the site, I was stunned, angry, disgusted.
And helas, she came to see why.
It made her upset. Like people not understanding, that you can live together just as you are.
Now she is crying and very unhappy.
I blame you!

[tranvampirelover]

Never have and I am not sure I ever will. I do have permisson from my girlfriend on one condition. She doesn't want to join in but she does want to watch.