Am I under some curse?

I just have to let it flow, having pressures and rules in myself makes me " crazy". So I take it slow but surely.

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Bossymax... although I sympathise with your plight, I would point out that you're not exactly the only person on earth who is holding out for their "perfect partner", so you can hardly consider yourself "cursed".

Secondly, as a black guy myself, I must object to your wording/phrasiology... "I usually attract men that are either black, overweight, or just ugly in general". You say you're not racist... but at the very least this comment is ignorant... it connotes that being black is as undesirable as being ugly, it puts "black" and "ugly" in the same group. Of course, everyone is entitled to their own preferences, and is allowed to act on those preferences when it comes to dating... but they should do so as tactfully and respectfully as possible, which I don't think you have done. I realise this is an international forum, and as such standards of English will differ widely... but in future please try to be more tactful when dealing with such sensitive issues as a person's race making them desirable/undesirable to you... and for that matter, any physical attribute.... from what you say, it sounds like the main problem with these guys is their attitude and how they approach you, not their physical appearance. Thank you.

Good news is, Im not racist at all. Infact, I love to have black man for a change. I am tired of white men, seems to be all around. Seriously, any races well do for me as long as he is genuine...That matters to me and to all here :-)

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I don't claim any beauty prize myself, in fact, there's been a few times I became horrified when I looked at myself in a mirror. And, my tropical fish tend to swim away and hide.

All kidding aside.

Are you focused merely on looks, or are you looking for someone that you can have a serious relationship with? Again, I certainly can't claim that I'm as white as snow, as looks are also important to me. As the ole saying goes, "Never judge a book by its cover".

I believed you and I'm not being cynical...Everyone has the chance but only once I give...