A bit serious..

[Theblindestpilot]

I'm beginning to wonder whether my attraction to transexuals is going to have an affect on my later "married" life.

Obviously I know I'm not gay - I have of course considered it but I am 100% certain, indeed the very idea of being intimate with another man is quite disgusting for me (which may seem very strange).

But on the other hand, vaginas just really do not do it for me in the same way. It's like being trapped in the middle, which is a horrible place to be.

I love women, if I see a stunning woman walk past me I will think And I love the idea of in later life having an amazing wife kids the whole lot. But I can't help but think this attraction will be a constant strain on me forever, making me never 100% satisfied with my wife, no matter how beautiful she is.

I would never want to be in an actual relationship with a shemale, it's purely a sexual thing and some times after I've finished the whole idea seems disgusting.

I have enjoyed the excitment of this fantasy, and I would not turn down intercourse with a transexual if the oppertunity arises but I can't help but worry whether this burden will haunt me forever.

Sorry for the whine, I don't even know if this is the right place to post this, even if this is the right site. I've never spoken to anyone about this and most likely never will. I'll just shoot it out onto the world wide web.. a problem shared..

Peace.

[racquel]

Originally Posted by Theblindestpilot

I would never want to be in an actual relationship with a shemale, it's purely a sexual thing and some times after I've finished the whole idea seems disgusting.

Umm ... well ... since you want to be a bit serious ... then fuck you, too.

I think a lot of people have similar feelings, but it's a dangerous place to be ... at least for other people. I think a lot of hate crimes start with this kind of self-loathing.

And self-loathing is what it is. It's something you need to deal with. It's no different than if you were a 12-year-old Catholic boy masturbating constantly and thinking you're going to go to hell for it, but you can't stop masturbating. You're going to have to find a way to be comfortable with yourself or it's going to be a miserable life.

Why does it have to be purely sexual? You must think it's gay on some level if you would never consider a relationship with a TS girl. What's wrong with being with a girl you're attracted to and maybe adopting a kid together?

To be fair I know the answer to that. The whole reason many TS people (in the US at least) don't transition until they're middle-aged is because there's so much social pressure. The hardest thing I've ever done in life is try to just be myself and not worry about all the judgment. I can't expect a guy to have that kind of confidence. After all, it's probably just a fetish.

(btw, I'm not really angry ... just kinda giving my perspective ... well, the perspective of a barely-sentient fuck hole that you would never be seen in public with ... OK, a little more sarcasm there ... sorry)

[phil800]

i am a married guy and i am finding it hard to be the loyal loving husband to my wife! I myself used to just enjoy looking at shemale pics and watching shemale porn until i finally had sex with a shemale! now my sexuality is in question and i know in myself that straight sex does not interest me as much as it used to do! i think i may have sucked one cock too many! So i have to decide wether to carry on being bisexual or become fully gay.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by racquel

I can't expect a guy to have that kind of confidence. After all, it's probably just a fetish.

I keep having to remind myself of that. Guys who date us get a small taste of what it is to be Trans* and they so very often can't handle it. It takes a man nearly as strong as a trans* woman to date us, and frankly I don't think there are that many.

That said, it is rewarding when we can find one (or two or three) who can handle it. It's either that or come to grips with being a fucktoy for the rest f your life.

[rockabilly]

You ladies should not have to settle or come to grips w/ anything. Good men are out there , some closer than others. And for "men" who use you as a sexual fetish screw those insecure bastards who are to afraid to embrace sexuality and stay grounded in terms of Gay / Straight. Theres a wide spectrum of human sexuality people.

[Theblindestpilot]

I apologise for being an arsehole, I didn't think about offence until I read that post today and realised how riddled with it is was.

I'm still a teenager, finding myself is a long way away yet.

[Theblindestpilot]

Originally Posted by rockabilly

You ladies should not have to settle or come to grips w/ anything. Good men are out there , some closer than others. And for "men" who use you as a sexual fetish screw those insecure bastards who are to afraid to embrace sexuality and stay grounded in terms of Gay / Straight. Theres a wide spectrum of human sexuality people.

This is completely out of curiosity, don't feel like you have to answer it, but have you ever had a transexual girlfriend/(boyfriend)? And if so how did your family and friends react?

[rockabilly]

My Aunts a lesbian and she knows. Honestly shes a little confused by it but accepts it. I dont have much of a family left. I have went on some dates w/ a tgirl but she and i never became intimate. Just take peoples feelings into account before you say something you regret. Nobody likes feeling used.

[charlietwobeans]

you're growing up (as a teen) in a very transformative time - the social acceptance of transgendered people, despite all the doom and gloom and the social hardships and stigmas they still face, is growing every day. So, this is a time for you to be able to openly explore the possibility of being in a relationship with a Tgirl, not just sexually. As others have said, have you tried a relationship? You're disgust may stem from the fact that you're not putting these people on the same level as you - treating them as people first and sex objects second.

I urge you to try real dating instead of sexual encounters - Tgirls and transgendered people in general are some of the most wonderful people to be with - they're people, in short, but they've taken an unusually bold step in their decisions, and its something to learn from and to laud.

Consider yourself lucky. Make the exploration, and then decide.

I am envious of your position, as I am sure many others are.