A gender ignorant world... is that really funky?

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Bionca

But Trans* woman / cis* man success stories seem as elusive as rainbows. But I keep giving it a try... I must like rainbows.

No, honey... they are there and that is the right way...

There are so many cis* men out there who are just afraid to choose what they really want. It takes time to educate them and to make them feel at ease with them selves.

I'm rare, in as much that I didn't keep my new-found love a secret - I actually screamed it out loud because I was proud of it... proud of finding myself. And nothing makes me more warm and proud and strong and everything than holding my sweet trans-woman close to me. It's a bond... it's like being HOME. I hope I make sense...

I may have lost my ability to truly commit - maybe because I've been too much of a bloody playboy, but my deep, deep love for THAT trans-woman remains, and eventually I will find her and live with her ever after.

But the thing is, that I cannot be less picky. I cannot in all fairness say that being a trans-woman gives her a "free ride" (excuse my French). Yes, I want a trans-woman, but i also want a life partner who can match me and with whom I can truly enjoy all aspects of living.

I expect as much from a trans-woman as I do from a non-trans-woman - her transsexuality is divine, but in the end creating a relationship is based on total mutual mental and sexual attraction. In the end no-one can build a relationship solely based on her or his gender identificatition.

But you're still my Goddess, Missy B :-)

Kisses!

H

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by hankhavelock

No, honey... they are there and that is the right way...

There are so many cis* men out there who are just afraid to choose what they really want. It takes time to educate them and to make them feel at ease with them selves.

I'm rare, in as much that I didn't keep my new-found love a secret - I actually screamed it out loud because I was proud of it... proud of finding myself. And nothing makes me more warm and proud and strong and everything than holding my sweet trans-woman close to me. It's a bond... it's like being HOME. I hope I make sense...

I may have lost my ability to truly commit - maybe because I've been too much of a bloody playboy, but my deep, deep love for THAT trans-woman remains, and eventually I will find her and live with her ever after.

But the thing is, that I cannot be less picky. I cannot in all fairness say that being a trans-woman gives her a "free ride" (excuse my French). Yes, I want a trans-woman, but i also want a life partner who can match me and with whom I can truly enjoy all aspects of living.

I expect as much from a trans-woman as I do from a non-trans-woman - her transsexuality is divine, but in the end creating a relationship is based on total mutual mental and sexual attraction. In the end no-one can build a relationship solely based on her or his gender identificatition.

But you're still my Goddess, Missy B :-)

Kisses!

H

Obviously there are guys who have the pluck to make a real go of a relationship. But, and you have to admit, the number of curious guys willing to say whatever it takes and/or guys who genuinely THINK they know what they want is way more than those who "get it" and can/will try to make it work.

Standards shouldn't be lowered because a woman is Trans*. By all means there are some issues that trans* women have socially that her guy will have to share with her, and that may make for some consideration. But folks need to "click" and be compatible and all that.

And... sorry if I sounded sulky above. I was just pointing out that the number of GG/TG relationships that last more than a week, and are serious FAR greater than guy/trans.

[rockabilly]

If you truly love someone and they love you then gender should not matter. We are so much more than what are genitals say we are. When i find my Tgirlfriend i would be more than glad to hold her hand while walking and kiss her in public and marry her. Because everyone has the right to be happy and if people don't like it FUCK them and their narrow minds

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Obviously there are guys who have the pluck to make a real go of a relationship. But, and you have to admit, the number of curious guys willing to say whatever it takes and/or guys who genuinely THINK they know what they want is way more than those who "get it" and can/will try to make it work.

Standards shouldn't be lowered because a woman is Trans*. By all means there are some issues that trans* women have socially that her guy will have to share with her, and that may make for some consideration. But folks need to "click" and be compatible and all that.

And... sorry if I sounded sulky above. I was just pointing out that the number of GG/TG relationships that last more than a week, and are serious FAR greater than guy/trans.

Missy B, all I can say is that when do you come by to spend the night with a stupid man? ;-)

Sweet Ly is coming in a week and will stay for a month and yet I belong to Liza... it's complicated, but yet no more complicated than it was with the GGs.

The GG/TG relationships that you refer to must be a strictly Western thing... that's not the thing here in Asia. GG/TG... yikes... not really happening here... but ofcourse, there are quite a bit of socalled "trans-lesbian" Westerners, and if that rocks their world, then that's how it is. I really have limited experience in that direction.

Open up and be ready for a guy, darling... he must be there soon... you are SO gorgeous and totally intelligent, so why do you scare them away? Are there simply only two honest tranny-lovers in the USA?

I don't get it...

H