Once again I met the ignorance...

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by racquel

So do I.

It's not that I have such low self-esteem that I call everybody who could ever be interested in me a creepy tranny chaser. But there are a lot. Even the ones who seem normal will often say totally inappropriate things that they would never say to a GG. A couple weeks ago a cute military guy was talking to me at a bar. After about about 20 seconds of conversation decided he had to describe in detail how large his cock was and how much trouble I'd have fitting it in my mouth, then five minutes later he seemed confused and hurt that I didn't want to hang out with him on the porch when he went out to smoke...

But I'll certainly give you the benefit of the doubt.

Well, come on down here and give me the benefit of the doubt in person :-)

I have a fine place, and you're welcome to stay over ;-)

Seriously, I think that aside from the bullshitters a few guys are genuine. But they are horribly insecure. They simply don't know how to handle a gorgeous trans-woman. They may be of their best intentions, but they become weird, inarticulate and stupid because they cannot handle it - especially not in a face to face situation.

Bear with them a little bit - don't judge them too hard, baby. Remember, you live in America (don't you?), the socalled land of "freedom", where religion, politics and normal "ethics" make this thing hard...

So if the guy is just remotely cute and "un-freaky" and not toooooooooo creepy, then give him, too, the benefit of the doubt.

Remember that guys are not as strong as women! Remember that the struggle, that you have been through, is TONS heavier, than what he will ever have to carry...

When I met my first trans-woman she was far from being sarcastic or intimidating... she reeled me in in a good way... she understood that I might have had some doubts (well, I didn't), and she had prepared for that.

Don't expect some idiotic little soldier boy to be man enuff to accept his own attractions. But HELP him to understand them. HELP the poor, hetero-vanilla-bastard to grasp what it is he really needs and wants... help him to love you and help him to remove ALL the guilt... because you're so much further in such matters than he is!

Or better... come here in stead ;-)

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