dream came true - now what

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by horizontal

apart from the married bit - divorced but a family to wory about - what you describe is scarily close to where i am.

but if there is a difference, it is that i am telling her that she must in the end find a nice guy (she deserves nothing less) who can let her into his life without reservation- well i am hinting at this strongly.

angst - you said it

HORIZ and BIONCA:

She knows and understands what you say, but she knows you're crazy about her. Sorry, there is no happy medium for either of you.

The battered spouse doesn't leave that relationship, the woman w/ a man who doesn't want the child/children she does doesn't leave, and a trans girl w/ a steady boyfriend doesn't leave.

BIONCA says one thing about her marine guy, but the advice she gravitated to was the have-a-talk-with-your-guy variety.

Point: she doesn't have a better offer, and those offers are few and far between. How many so-called bi-and-straight guys go completely open w/ having a trans gf?

There's what she wants, what she'll settle for, and what she hopes will happen w/ what she can do to get it.

Now that you can relax, because all of YOUR cards are on the table. I doubt that all of hers are. I've seen relationships that end badly where the guy puts all of HIS cards on the table.

Your situation in her eyes is that your friends, relatives and acquaintances are important to you, which you don't want to lose. That said, you are absolutely and totally gaga over her, and LOVE will happen by continuing to see each other, which she knows.

One little step here, one little step there.


Good luck,


TAL