Here's my question....

[T-licious]

Why not just go to a lingerie store, pick out what you want and ask to have it gift wrapped? They'll think it's a present for your mistress (or at least you can delude yourself into thinking so).

[miss_kandy]

hi lacey_maxie

i too adore lingerie and girly clothes and struggled with hiding it from my wife.
well, as many have experienced, the day finally came when she asked me just what it was I was doing with such a collection of lingerie and clothing stuffed in the back of a closet... so I just told her the truth. I told her I loved to wear and preferred to have some cute soft panties on under my jeans than ordinary guys boxers. I expected the worst...but I actually got a pleasant surprise! No yelling... no tears... no throwing me out of the house with a rubbish bag of panties following me! She said she had no problem at all..as I didn't appear to be hurting anyone and in reality - who the hell cares what you have on under! She actually was more upset I hadn't told her - keeping it secret for so long - and suggested we even play dress-ups together!

So maybe this little anecdote may not help you in any way, there could be a possibility that just being slightly open about things...(baby steps at first) could lead to more secure and fulfilling fun later

As for purchasing...I have always bought at department stores and lingerie shops. Before the sales assistant has a chance to look at you differently, just ask "can she exchange these?" or "do you gift wrap?"

Good luck I have been there and it was not easy.

[lacey_maxie]

Originally Posted by miss_kandy

hi lacey_maxie

i too adore lingerie and girly clothes and struggled with hiding it from my wife.
well, as many have experienced, the day finally came when she asked me just what it was I was doing with such a collection of lingerie and clothing stuffed in the back of a closet... so I just told her the truth. I told her I loved to wear and preferred to have some cute soft panties on under my jeans than ordinary guys boxers. I expected the worst...but I actually got a pleasant surprise! No yelling... no tears... no throwing me out of the house with a rubbish bag of panties following me! She said she had no problem at all..as I didn't appear to be hurting anyone and in reality - who the hell cares what you have on under! She actually was more upset I hadn't told her - keeping it secret for so long - and suggested we even play dress-ups together!

So maybe this little anecdote may not help you in any way, there could be a possibility that just being slightly open about things...(baby steps at first) could lead to more secure and fulfilling fun later

As for purchasing...I have always bought at department stores and lingerie shops. Before the sales assistant has a chance to look at you differently, just ask "can she exchange these?" or "do you gift wrap?"

Good luck I have been there and it was not easy.

Hi Miss_Kandy

I really appreciate your advice and You have very understanding wife I must admit but I don't think that the same applies to my wife ,I'm afraid.I know her very well and she wouldn't be very happy about my crossdressing,actually she would be furious.Once she found a pair of knickers in my jacket and I was lucky that the tag was still attached to it(new pair) and it took me plenty of time to convince her that it was a gift for her.But thanks anyway for the advice

[miss_kandy]

hey Lacey!

You are more than welcome... It is a shame about your situation. I guess I am very lucky and I appreciate my better half understanding me. I do hope one day things work out for you

All the best!

[lacey_maxie]

Originally Posted by T-licious

Why not just go to a lingerie store, pick out what you want and ask to have it gift wrapped? They'll think it's a present for your mistress (or at least you can delude yourself into thinking so).

I do that sometimes but it costs me lots of courage.

[aquatoes83]

When I would order things trying to be extremely discreet, generally the online shop will have a comment or additional information box. I would usually ask to use discreet shipping, and not include the name of the company in the return address, maybe replace it with a persons name at the company. This made the "ebay" excuse easier to use, and it never got me caught.