Questions for TS women

[Bionca]

Arthur, you ask some good questions and none of them are easy to answer. To colplicate things, trans*women are as vastly different from eachother as any other group of people.

One thing to be clear on is that sex (biological) is different from gender (emotional/mental). You will hear Trans woman say the "feel like a woman", when in reality, language doesn't have an easy way to explain what this is. I find it better to say, I always UNDERSTOOD myself to be female. If I had never taken any steps to feminize my body, my understanding of my self would be the same. If a genetic woman gets a flat-top and wears a tux, she is still a woman - because that is her perception of herself. She is simply a "butch" woman, not a man.

Just as there are some children born without clearly defined genetalia (intersex), there are some people born with a mind/body disconnect. I can honestly say that my childhood as a "girlhood" - even if the people around me didn't understand that to be the case. For example, I always looked to women as my role-models - if a book or movie had crap female characters, I didn't like it. Boys, on the otherhand look to adult males for instruction and grooming - I rarely understood what it was they were expecting me to do/understand. Women, I got - men were the "other".

Here is a story - growing up, I learned that girls were nurses and boys were doctors. Getting that social message (untrue as it is) made me angry because I knoew that I could have been a good doctor and didn't "just" want to be a nurse. My male peers were not having that conflict, while my female peers were. When I enteed puberty, I was praying for a female puberty, because that was what my mind was expecting. When my father took me aside to show me how to shave my face, it wasn't a bonding rite of passage, it was a soul-crushing moment where I couldn't deny that my body was developing all wrong.

The above will only be true for me, and other Trans*women will likely have something totally different, but equally valid to say on the topic.

[moonwalkermoon]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Arthur, you ask some good questions and none of them are easy to answer. To colplicate things, trans*women are as vastly different from eachother as any other group of people.

Bionca,

you are very smart and reading through this forum you have a lot of great and interesting things to say.

Blessed are the ones who can call themselves your friends.

I'd certainly love to be one of them.

Stay as you are and don't allow the world to change you!

[merelypink]

dont think to much it will make your brain hurt