I'm slightly worried about the emerging tone here

[BlueRaven88]

Originally Posted by hankhavelock

This forum has miraculously survived and even developed in a quite frank spirit with generally good-natured postings. And it has done so in spite of the fact that there seems to be two completely separate discussions going on. One about "who has the biggest she-dick", another about more substantial matters - wonderful.

That is not only unique (I've never witnessed another forum like this - and trust me, I know a few :-), it's also important for the brand of this forum. We appear to be able to co-exist in happy recognition of each other - despite our differences.

Lately, however, I think the tone among certain posters is becoming increasingly hostile. That must be avoided as that is the root of any forum's inevitable downfall.

Something quite unique has been created here solely by the intelligent contributors, and I hope this can remain an open-minded forum for broad-minded discussions among folks who may view things differently but who still have the intention of being nice and even the sense to back down when hostility emerges.

We don't really need a forum that is at war.

Think about it everybody!

Peace!

HankyPanky

i agree hank, and i would also like to add that recently we've had a sudden surge of members joining, which is great, but they speak about transsexuals/shemales/tgirls/whatever you want to call them with a very derogetory attitude. they treat them as an object or some sexual hurdle they need to overcome just once in their life so they can say 'i had sex with a shemale'. they aren't toys people, they are real, living human beings and have feelings and emotions like the rest of us, and i can guarentee that they have had MUCH worse life experiences than you or i, because they have had to deal with so much hate and hostility towards them simply because they are who they are. put yourself in their shoes. say you were born as a masculine hairy man, and tried all your life so hard to be a girl, and you are willing to sacrifice every penny, every moment of your life, even (in the case of most shemale escorts) your own dignity to sleep with whoever had the money, just so you can get that little bit closer to being who you are on the inside, then you come to a forum like this to try and chat to some people who WON'T judge you or hate you for who you are, and find a bunch of jerk offs saying 'i am looking for a shemale for sex' or some crap of the like? would YOU feel safe? would you feel flattered? no. you would be disgusted and afraid that no matter how hard you struggle you will NEVER fit in or be accepted, which is untrue, but fear rules our minds. so be more FUCKING respectful you shit head pigs cos i am SICK and TIRED of coming on here to view thread updates and reading the degrading shit spewing from your mouths constantly. grow the fuck up and learn some respect.


P.S. lol @ hanky panky :P

[sweetshemale18]

hmm true..and i think everyone has the right to state their opinion..but they need not fight to make it right or wrong..as its just an opinion..and if right or wrong depends on which side u stand..so just make a statement and leave it at that..no need to argue about anything..its not a contest .. in here.. n u just live a limited years before we all become dust..so just accept this beautiful life as it is and live and let live..

[ila]

Originally Posted by BlueRaven88

so be more FUCKING respectful you shit head pigs cos i am SICK and TIRED of coming on here to view thread updates and reading the degrading shit spewing from your mouths constantly. grow the fuck up and learn some respect.

Well this really helps. And if you were trying to be sarcastic it didn't come off that way.

[BlueRaven88]

Originally Posted by ila

Well this really helps. And if you were trying to be sarcastic it didn't come off that way.

if i was being sarcastic there wouldn't be any confusion in the matter. i was being 100% serious

[ila]

Originally Posted by BlueRaven88

if i was being sarcastic there wouldn't be any confusion in the matter. i was being 100% serious

I was being sarcastic and in hindsight I shouldn't have. It didn't come off that way and certainly doesn't enhance the topic or my character.

I should have written:
How does calling people names and being derogatory and condescending to others improve the tone of the site?

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by BlueRaven88

i agree hank, and i would also like to add that recently we've had a sudden surge of members joining, which is great, but they speak about transsexuals/shemales/tgirls/whatever you want to call them with a very derogetory attitude. they treat them as an object or some sexual hurdle they need to overcome just once in their life so they can say 'i had sex with a shemale'. they aren't toys people, they are real, living human beings and have feelings and emotions like the rest of us, and i can guarentee that they have had MUCH worse life experiences than you or i, because they have had to deal with so much hate and hostility towards them simply because they are who they are. put yourself in their shoes. say you were born as a masculine hairy man, and tried all your life so hard to be a girl, and you are willing to sacrifice every penny, every moment of your life, even (in the case of most shemale escorts) your own dignity to sleep with whoever had the money, just so you can get that little bit closer to being who you are on the inside, then you come to a forum like this to try and chat to some people who WON'T judge you or hate you for who you are, and find a bunch of jerk offs saying 'i am looking for a shemale for sex' or some crap of the like? would YOU feel safe? would you feel flattered? no. you would be disgusted and afraid that no matter how hard you struggle you will NEVER fit in or be accepted, which is untrue, but fear rules our minds. so be more FUCKING respectful you shit head pigs cos i am SICK and TIRED of coming on here to view thread updates and reading the degrading shit spewing from your mouths constantly. grow the fuck up and learn some respect.


P.S. lol @ hanky panky :P

Hmmm... slightly overreacted and a bit beside my point in this thread, really (but you still may have a point, though).

I was merely asking posters to stop yelling and throwing mud at each other...

[longdick666]

Well its the internet, and well how should i put it... drama drama drama.
I know I am new here, but being a member of alot of different forums and websites, you always get this crap. thats why its best for the admins and mods to stay a little detacted from members. Also people shouldnt get so worked up over a comment some person made about you on the internet.
Like there are people in this world who will take something the wrong way, and they will be pissed off for the entire day, all over something a 12 yr old in basement somewhere in mexico said on a forum to them.
Life is too short, so if someone pisses you off, just say it to them, not in some massive rant. They may not have realsied they annoyed you, but give them the chance to apologise, or else just move on with your life.