Hello from melissa carter

[Talvenada]

MEL,

Thank you SO much, sweet face.

I didn't know the difference--or that there was one--between being trans and being TV. Your explanation was clear and simple w/ your usual articulateness.

Do you think anyone could be into both the inner feminine aspect; like you, and the outer appearance, as well?

Do you wish you started to transition 5 years or so sooner?

TAL

Originally Posted by Talvenada

MEL,

Thank you SO much, sweet face.

I didn't know the difference--or that there was one--between being trans and being TV. Your explanation was clear and simple w/ your usual articulateness.

Do you think anyone could be into both the inner feminine aspect; like you, and the outer appearance, as well?

Do you wish you started to transition 5 years or so sooner?

TAL

I believe that all TS incorporate their enjoyment of feminine attire into their lives. The great distinction between TS and CD is that it's not about "the look" it's about the feeling, or more succintly, the identity. See, for TS we have no other life to fall back on, this is our only identity.

As for starting earlier, fuck yea, I wish I started at sixteen. Then again, given my loose behavior I probably would have been dead by twenty. There are Divine reasons greater than we can explain for why we do what we do when we do it.

I'm just grateful to have found my calling at all, and let's face it, in the world of porn and escorting I'm already an old lady!

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

I believe that all TS incorporate their enjoyment of feminine attire into their lives. The great distinction between TS and CD is that it's not about "the look" it's about the feeling, or more succintly, the identity. See, for TS we have no other life to fall back on, this is our only identity.

As for starting earlier, fuck yea, I wish I started at sixteen. Then again, given my loose behavior I probably would have been dead by twenty. There are Divine reasons greater than we can explain for why we do what we do when we do it.

I'm just grateful to have found my calling at all, and let's face it, in the world of porn and escorting I'm already an old lady!

MEL,

Have you completed your transition, or do you have more ops other than having more in your lacy bras?

[Bionca]

Melissa, nice to have you here. I have to agree with you, at least for me. My transition had really nothing to do with either sex or dressing up. Really, I had plenty for sex prior and could easily have led a "secret life" as a CD. Cripes, I suppose I could have become a drag queen (except I never did learn how to apply makeup THAT well).

It's a part of being Trans that I think lots of people overlook. The clothes and hair and sex are all fine and dandy... but the moment my body started to match up with how I always thought it should have been was the real relief and the moment my life started to turn around.

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Melissa, nice to have you here. I have to agree with you, at least for me. My transition had really nothing to do with either sex or dressing up. Really, I had plenty for sex prior and could easily have led a "secret life" as a CD. Cripes, I suppose I could have become a drag queen (except I never did learn how to apply makeup THAT well).

It's a part of being Trans that I think lots of people overlook. The clothes and hair and sex are all fine and dandy... but the moment my body started to match up with how I always thought it should have been was the real relief and the moment my life started to turn around.

BIONCA,

Don't a lot of drag queens overdo the cosmetics in a cartoonish or clownish manner? Though I did meet one once that even knowing her gender before meeting her at a party, I still couldn't tell by looking. I wanted to believe my eyes.

Originally Posted by Talvenada

BIONCA,

Don't a lot of drag queens overdo the cosmetics in a cartoonish or clownish manner? Though I did meet one once that even knowing her gender before meeting her at a party, I still couldn't tell by looking. I wanted to believe my eyes.

The term "drag queen" always offended me, not implying you are calling me that, simply making a distinction between a true transwoman and a drag queenie. They always repulsed me. To me drag queens are basically gay guys. I feel they do the trans community a disservice. Cartoonish is a good word.

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

The term "drag queen" always offended me, not implying you are calling me that, simply making a distinction between a true transwoman and a drag queenie. They always repulsed me. To me drag queens are basically gay guys. I feel they do the trans community a disservice. Cartoonish is a good word.

MEL,

I think it used to be, and in some segments of society still is, a one-size-fits-all term. So, the person I met wasn't a drag queen, but a term I hadn't heard of yet. Sometimes, trying to put the past into the present w/ terminology isn't in sync.

In fact, I cannot say that any or many of the t-girls on this site are drag queens.

TAL

Originally Posted by Bionca

Melissa, nice to have you here. I have to agree with you, at least for me. My transition had really nothing to do with either sex or dressing up. Really, I had plenty for sex prior and could easily have led a "secret life" as a CD. Cripes, I suppose I could have become a drag queen (except I never did learn how to apply makeup THAT well).

It's a part of being Trans that I think lots of people overlook. The clothes and hair and sex are all fine and dandy... but the moment my body started to match up with how I always thought it should have been was the real relief and the moment my life started to turn around.

You said it best when you said, "the moment my body started to match up with how I always thought it should".

Thanks.

Originally Posted by Talvenada

MEL,

Have you completed your transition, or do you have more ops other than having more in your lacy bras?

I have breast implant surgery and a minor upper lip lift scheduled this fall. I do not foresee any future augnmentations. I am a non-op and unless my entire vision changes, will never have SRS. The thought of cutting my penis off is a total horror. I like my anatomy, and my cock is easily tuckable. In public day-to-day no one knows what's in my panties, it's my private business. Everything works perfect, I don't want to mess with it.

It is a misnomer that TS reach a "completion" point. We will always have ongoing maintenance, like electrolysis, laser, the occasional injectable filler, Botox, etc...so in essence our work is never done

Thanks for asking!.

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

I have breast implant surgery and a minor upper lip lift scheduled this fall. I do not foresee any future augnmentations. I am a non-op and unless my entire vision changes, will never have SRS. The thought of cutting my penis off is a total horror. I like my anatomy, and my cock is easily tuckable. In public day-to-day no one knows what's in my panties, it's my private business. Everything works perfect, I don't want to mess with it.

It is a misnomer that TS reach a "completion" point. We will always have ongoing maintenance, like electrolysis, laser, the occasional injectable filler, Botox, etc...so in essence our work is never done

Thanks for asking!.

MEL,

I talked w/ another non-op, and she looked at it as mutilation.

Is that part of your thinking? It doesn't sound like it.

TAL

[Slappy4011]

Melissa,

From what I see, you are a very beautiful lady. Keep doing what you are doing dear, and stay safe, and have fun!

[oldawg]

hello melissa, welcome

Originally Posted by Talvenada

MEL,

I talked w/ another non-op, and she looked at it as mutilation.

Is that part of your thinking? It doesn't sound like it.

TAL

The idea of a surgical knife piercing any area down there is as repulsive as it would be to a man. I see my anatomy down South as "complete and whole" and not requiring change.

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by TSmelissacarter

The idea of a surgical knife piercing any area down there is as repulsive as it would be to a man. I see my anatomy down South as "complete and whole" and not requiring change.

MEL,

You kind of grow attached to that attachment, don't you?

The thought of losing it is like losing an arm or finger.