questioning my sexuality. a new member

[jimnaseum]

Way before Roman times, the evolutionary brain had to install motivary rewards to the species so it would have offspring.

Here's an example:

[jimnaseum]

In Washington DC where I live they have some Drag Queen shows and they used to have a pretty active Gay Scene with nighhtclubs, but the new baseball stadium ran them out. I went to a BDSM party down there once by myself, and it was cool, I was the squarest guy there, so I just sat with my beer and looked around. They had live sex, and people got whipped, and lots of nudity, and nobody gave me a hard time at all. I'm mentioned here before that they have a "Shemale" prostitute area, and it's the real thing, no doubt about it.
So all kinds of stuff pertinent to this site is available to me if I wish to partake of it. I've heard Bionca say she has anxiety attacks, so do I. In the car. It feels like you're going to have a heart attack or stroke, or going to die, and once you have one, you get anxiety every time you get behind the wheel.
Most people here could probably have some kind of shemale experience if they tried, but I admit I'm scared. I'm pretty sure there is a right and wrong way to do it, but if you live near a big city you could probably find a Female Impersonator club to go to just to get your feet wet, and if you survive that, start talking to the locals in the club, explain your situation, and I'm sure someone would help you out.

[Bionca]

Bi/gay/straight, male/female/trans, pre/non/post op - they are all lables that are really only a mental short-hand for dealing with other people. The real question, ultimately is "Does it matter if I'm not exactly heterosexual". Once that question is honestly answered, (and there is no "correct" answer either) everything becomes much easier.

As far as Ila's comment about Transwomen being women, and having "female" brains. It is more and less complicated than that. I can only speak for me here, but at no point in my life did I understand myself to be a man/boy. There are no activities/actions that are exclusive to either male or female aside from biology (women have the babies). So it isn't like I "acted like a girl". It is less concrete than that. I understood that I was a girl.

It is like asking a lesbian why she is gay. Lots of times she will answer she "always knew". No matter how "butch" or "femme" she may present, the understanding was always there.

[jimnaseum]

I had to wait til I was on a disability retirement to find out I probably had a pituitary tumor as a kid. In school I always looked young, or sometimes with long hair I looked a little bit like a girl. I spent most of my time pretending everything is cool. Life is a struggle anyway. If you're in your twenties, it is important to find out if you're gay, or bi, or whatever. I never got married and I took a lot of flac for that from friends and family, but I was just being me. It sounds corny, but you got to be your self.

[CrimsonIdol56]

Gay? Straight? I dunno. These are labels that only you can choose for yourself. Sure, other people will draw their own conclusions about your orientation, but worrying about justifying yourself to those other people is a losing game. For example, I've been told that there's something "wrong" with me because I happen to be attracted to Asian women. I mean genetic girls, no fetish stuff, nothing kinky, yet there's something "wrong" because it's outside of the blonde haired girl-next-door stereotype. Point is, no matter what your preference, somebody is going to think it's weird. The real question is, what do YOU think?

Speaking for myself, I am 100% heterosexual. I say this because I'm not attracted to men, or interested in having sex with one. As far as male-to-female transgendered people... that's a matter of individual taste. I look at some of them, and I think "ewww! That's a man with long hair and breast implants!" Others radiate feminine sexuality, and I think of them as attractive women who happen to have a penis, and I'd probably go to bed with them given the chance. Does this mean I'm kidding myself about being completely hetero? I don't know, and don't care. Maybe it does. But I'm not going to listen to anybody who tells me that's what it means, and expects me to worry about it. I know what I like, and that's the end of the story as far as I'm concerned.

[jblast01]

I am new her myself as a poster. I have had a date with two perfect lady's.
I am not changed at all. I am not into other males.
Males have never entered my mind. When I discovered shemales it changed. I agree they have a cock. And I wanted that cock. I have never been attracted to a cock until I saw a well hung shemale.

[SweetCharmer]

well you'd never know if someone's being ironic or sarcastic i mean you can't hear the sarcasm

[ValerieKeefe]

I have a very loose definition of what a woman is and what a man is, myself, and sex really comes down to identification. "Shemales" are women with penises, that simple. Not all of those women are XY, many are XX, but were born hermaphroditic and managed not to get mutilated at birth. Some have desired a cock and while they might not get a live one, they can and do wear them. (friend of a friend is actually that way, so it's fortunate she's engaged to a very good hypnotist.) And there are straight women and lesbian women and closeted women and out women and bi women. Same goes for men. I don't think the genetalia makes a woman, the mind does, and the effort put into being a woman, and it does take a lot of effort for some who didn't get lucky at birth. So no, you're not gay for wanting to see a cock on Liz Hurley. A little kinky, but I guarantee you I win that contest... this is like the most normal of my fetishes.

FYI: I actually developed a shemale fetish because I fantasize about being turned into a blow up doll and kept by a loving owner... and I kinda want her to enjoy me.

[tamtam]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Bi/gay/straight, male/female/trans, pre/non/post op - they are all lables that are really only a mental short-hand for dealing with other people.

Labels aren't the real trouble: labels are used to better define a thing, so are a good idea if used properly.
The real trouble is when someone (that is mental short-hand, of course) use RIGID labels, forgeting real-life is more and more complex (and rich) and so a label couldn't define EXACTLY a thing or a situation.
This trouble not only happens when we refer to sexual tastes, but in all the aspects of the life.
A little example: you can go to a WW2 forum and confront a Tiger or a Panther (heavy tanks) with a Sherman (medium tank): in a par of minutes you will get at least a couple of replies from people that nearly insult you for the inappropriate paragon.....but they forget that in real life WW2 the TYPICAL tank combat in the west front was Tiger (or Panther) vs Sherman.......

[aguy]

It's all words man...

Shemale is not derogatory for me.It just indicates a person who looks female but has a dick.Just a word.

So get over semantics

[smc]

Originally Posted by tamtam

The difference between tgirls and girls is in the penis.
A tgirl that don't like this difference must be go to surgery.....and she will be an infertile woman, that was a 100% woman with a little handicap........not a very good result, IMHO.
IMHO for me, in my sexual view, a tgirl is in some ways better than a woman, in no ways worst than a woman, and in most ways absolutely equal to a woman.

Originally Posted by tamtam

Labels aren't the real trouble: labels are used to better define a thing, so are a good idea if used properly.
The real trouble is when someone (that is mental short-hand, of course) use RIGID labels, forgeting real-life is more and more complex (and rich) and so a label couldn't define EXACTLY a thing or a situation.
This trouble not only happens when we refer to sexual tastes, but in all the aspects of the life.
A little example: you can go to a WW2 forum and confront a Tiger or a Panther (heavy tanks) with a Sherman (medium tank): in a par of minutes you will get at least a couple of replies from people that nearly insult you for the inappropriate paragon.....but they forget that in real life WW2 the TYPICAL tank combat in the west front was Tiger (or Panther) vs Sherman.......

Originally Posted by aguy

It's all words man...

Shemale is not derogatory for me.It just indicates a person who looks female but has a dick.Just a word.

So get over semantics

Words matter, and this isn't about "semantics." It's about self-determination. You can both write whatever you want, but the bottom line -- and this is a bottom line militantly upheld on this site -- it's not up to you to decide for transwomen whether they are any particular thing. THEY DECIDE THEIR OWN GENDER IDENTITY. You can only acquiesce -- which is the right thing to do -- or you can rationalize taking away self-identity as a right.

[aguy]

smc you got this wrong man..

''taking away salf-identity as a right'' ? ? When the fuck did I do that exactly?

[Lewis]

Originally Posted by jimnaseum

Way before Roman times, the evolutionary brain had to install motivary rewards to the species so it would have offspring.

Here's an example:

Wow! If this woman had a penis, I could really go for her.

[mmmfajitas]

I consider myself hetero with a transvestic fetish and into TS - If pretty, I want to

[awww yehhh]

who cares!!! just enjoy the delicious shemale form and give in to the sexy dicks!