Worst.Date.Ever.

[adamtash]

A very sad but if you will forgive me, funny story.Jerk's are jerk's the world over.I sincerely hope you have better luck next time.

Wow, that is just bad! Kinda speechless really! Dunno what to say!

[marlowe]

Yep, that sounds like a really lousy evening out.
Don't want to be a scare-monger, but if I were you I'd be wary of meeting a guy you don't know for the first time at his place. Isn't it better to meet on neutral ground? A) because it's safer, and B) because it's easier to bail out if it's a clear mismatch.

[cham]

Poor you.

And I agree with Marlowe.

Cham

[hankhavelock]

Yep, that sounds like one heck of a lousy date - what a jerk, dear!

I guess we've all had our share of bad dates, how ever what strikes me as the clue (if there is one) is this person's utter disrespect. Maybe he just happens to be a total ass hole, how ever, maybe he simply lacks respect for a transsexual woman. I read that between the lines. And that seems to be a thing in our world. "Oh, she's just a dumb transsexual - she's probably so sex-hungered that she'll say yes to any thing... I mean, she's probably a hooker anyways..."

No, she will not! And no, she's not!

So let this be a learning lesson for the guys... if you are not TRULY happy about going out with a transsexual woman, if you cannot find it in yourself to show her total respect, if you're not ready to treat her as you Princess, then you don't deserve her! Then it's better you go find yourself a lille cisgendered girl!

And Bionca, should you ever find your way past Jakarta, then be my guest :-) I promise you I don't wear sweat pants :-)

Peace!

H

[inadaze]

geez that sounds really bad. I would think someone as special as you wouldnt be single for long. In IM and the emails did he really come across as someone different ? Perhaps you didnt vett him for long enough ? And did you see his face on webcam beforehand ? Frankly Im surprised he has any kind of girlfriend. He was a disgusting slob and an asshole imo.

[Bionca]

I hadn't even prought up pic trades or webcam. I'm at my brother's place and currently without a cam, and I've noticed that guys tend to be stingy with their pics, but pretty demanding of pics of TGs. That and I'm really not so hung up on looks - I'll give any guy who seems nice a chance.

Anyway.. we had been chatting and emailing for a week, he seemed ok, and I was going to be literally blocks from his place. It was a spur of the moment decision to meet him and it was happening at like 4 pm, so I figured it would be safe.

Based on how he acted, and going back through the emails, I really think he assumed I was for hire. From what I hear it's not uncommon for guys to assume that "pretty" t-girls are trying to handle their bills. I've seen a few comments on dating sites from guys commenting that there are either "ugly Cross Dressers or beautiful whores".

Half the time I feel like I battling misconceptions and steriotypes more than I'm actually dating.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by hankhavelock

"Oh, she's just a dumb transsexual - she's probably so sex-hungered that she'll say yes to any thing... I mean, she's probably a hooker anyways..."
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I have come across that attitude a few times online mostly. It's like the guys act like they are doing me (us) a favor by giving me (us) attention.

Generally I'll gently put the boys in their place and move on. Then I'll tell my girlfriends about him and soon enough he couldn't get laid by anyone but a professional (and she'd make him PAY for the honor of it).

[GRH]

It's a sad state of affairs that some men think transexuals are merely sex objects as opposed to real people who have real interests. I think that you Bionca, at least in regards to this website, are doing a lot to dispel that notion-- and I should hope that I am following your lead.

As you should no doubt know, I was disappointed to hear about your date but wish you good luck in future endeavors...So, the more pressing question from your date was not how your date went...But how did your job interview go???