anybody else embarassed to like ladyboys ?

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by zoomrolf

I wonder if any other members here have the same issues that I have . I have a number of friends living in Pattaya. I feel obligated, if I am to keep their friendship, to act like I only like girls.

Are you over 18?
If so, why do you care what others think regarding who you shag / date / marry.
I'd suggest you get some better friends,
though in truth, that's not necessary. They are your friends
and they like you for who you are. They'll likely be fine about who you date.

My parents took 5 years!.... FIVE YEARS!!! to tell my very elderly (late 80's)
godparents about my transition. {They specifically requested me to not to tell me godparents, directly}
I pointed out that other than both godparents dying in a car crash, together,
one of them WOULD LEARN of my transition at the other godparents funeral
or if I die first, at my funeral. Not a good time to learn.
After parents told them, my godparents were very chilled and have been more communicative and closer to me, than for many years.

Don't pre-guess other peoples reaction to you being a Trans attracted man.
It shows you to be an individual who lives outside the box.
That's a good thing.

[WonderingAround]

But I am so turned on by the prospects of it. I just want to try. Who knows. Maybe I'll love it.

[GRH]

You think it's embarrassing and intimidating to take a transwoman back to your hotel? Well put yourself in her shoes for a moment. Only rewind a few years. Rewind to that first time going out en femme. There's a good chance she is a bit awkward those first months and years-- a lifetime of presenting male isn't overcome in one bold step. Just because you want to be a ma'am doesn't mean you won't still frequently be called sir. You walk down the street or step on a public bus for the first time as a female-- and all you feel is the fire of eyes burning into your flesh. The stares of condemnation and judgment and being "had."

But you keep pressing on. You keep doing it. Maybe not full-time. Maybe here and there at first. But you trudge on, and slowly you get better. And part of getting "better" has NOTHING to do with how you look, how "passable" you are, or whether people address you as a sir or a ma'am. It has to do with perception, attitude, and confidence. You learn that you're really not as important as you once fashioned yourself to be. In a wacky world-- yes, maybe people give you a casual glance. But in 9 times out of 10, it's not the malicious "stare" you once thought it to be. People in general have better things to worry about than YOU. Why would a lowly trans person occupy so much of their mental real estate?

I think you could learn a thing or two from a trans person. But sadly, until you do, I don't think you're worthy of one.

[a9127]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

Are you over 18?
If so, why do you care what others think regarding who you shag / date / marry.
I'd suggest you get some better friends,
though in truth, that's not necessary. They are your friends
and they like you for who you are. They'll likely be fine about who you date.

My parents took 5 years!.... FIVE YEARS!!! to tell my very elderly (late 80's)
godparents about my transition. {They specifically requested me to not to tell me godparents, directly}
I pointed out that other than both godparents dying in a car crash, together,
one of them WOULD LEARN of my transition at the other godparents funeral
or if I die first, at my funeral. Not a good time to learn.
After parents told them, my godparents were very chilled and have been more communicative and closer to me, than for many years.

Don't pre-guess other peoples reaction to you being a Trans attracted man.
It shows you to be an individual who lives outside the box.
That's a good thing.

This is a great reply Jodie! You are right.