Question for tladies

[smc]

Originally Posted by bigboy4012

... I'm sure SMC will be along in a bit to tell you the 'correct' answer, and tell me I'm being ungendering or some crap lol

Originally Posted by franalexes

Dearka,
There are probably as many answers to your question as there are grains of sand at the bottom of the sea.

Big Boy; LOL We should have a chat over a cup of coffee some day.
Your "smc" comment seems very accurate.

Hey, actually, I agree completely with franalexes, but I'm glad to serve bigboy4012's instinctive need to get in a defensive cheap shot just in case. After all, when it comes to ungendering, he knows of what he speaks (even if it's not in this thread).

[franalexes]

Goodmorning smc. the wink hides my chuckle.

[Dearka]

By using your physical, wouldn't that take away from the experience of be a woman though? I guess I am more accustomed to the more"traditional" gender rules regarding physicality.

[bigboy4012]

Originally Posted by smc

Hey, actually, I agree completely with franalexes, but I'm glad to serve bigboy4012's instinctive need to get in a defensive cheap shot just in case. After all, when it comes to ungendering, he knows of what he speaks (even if it's not in this thread).

lol sorry, couldn't resist. And look, There was the message I knew you were going to come up with!

[franalexes]

Dearka:
I haven't a fucking clue what you are talking about in your post #7.

not sure if you do either.

[Dearka]

Sorry not the best typer on my phone. What I was asking is if the goal is to be a woman, then doesn't using your penis to be the giver take away from that goal as it seems most tgirls don't like their penis as it reminds them that they are not a biological female?? Also by being with a guy that prefers to receive, do transgender woman like guys to be more neutral rather than dominant?

[bigboy4012]

Again I am only guessing here, but I would say the aim is the be a woman and enjoy your sex life. if you happen to be a woman with a penis, then I don't see what would be wrong with using it for it's intended use. Using it doesn't mean you are not a woman, just a woman with a penis, so what?

Apologies for slightly hijacking the thread to have a go at SMC. :P

[GRH]

This has been addressed in other threads, but I don't mind answering it again. The answer ranges the full spectrum of sexuality and also depends a great degree on the dysphoria of the transgendered person in question.

1. You have some trans that don't mind using their penis, and a variety of trans are non-operative for any number of reasons and have no plans to ever get rid of their penis. I don't know what the stats are on operative versus non-operative transsexuals, but I think the porn industry leads many to the mistaken assumption that most trans are in this "woman with a penis camp."

2. You have trans for whom the "woman with a penis" meme will NEVER be reconciled in their own mind. As much as they feel to have been born in the wrong sex, so too do their wrong genitals remind them of this painful reality. Using their penis in the traditional, masculine way that men use their penises creates a disconnect for them that overrides any sexual pleasure.

3. You have people that fall between the two ends of the spectrum. They may be more comfortable with their penis than people in camp #2, but perhaps not as adventurous as some of the porn stars that you'd see in camp #1.

Personally, I find myself falling more toward camp #2. It's sort of complex, in that I have never necessarily identified with the "born in the wrong body" analogy that seems so popular in describing the trans community. I don't even know if it'd be fair to say I "dislike" my penis. But I HATE using it for anything that I perceive to be masculine sex. I have always abhorred traditional, heterosexual sex-- it just feels wrong thrusting my butt in and out, fucking like some manly animal. That type of sex always made me feel dirty (and not in a good way). So it doesn't matter if we're talking about a man or woman-- I do NOT want to be penetrator in the relationship. But I guess I'm a bit of an oddball too, because a "fulfilling sex life" is about the lowest priority I could imagine in a relationship. I really have so many sexual hangups, that for the most part sex seems like a lot more trouble to me than it's worth.

[Dearka]

GRH, thanks for the thoughtful post. It just seems to me that most sites involving tgirls are more for purely sexualizing them rather than a meaningful relationship. If my encounter has taught me anything it is that I can have a much better connection while still having a physical attraction although...since I have never been with one sexually I do not know how I would react.