Top 6 things not to say to a transsexual!

[LarryP]

Thank you again (Kelly & Fran) for your comments and insight. Your words are very helpful and informative.

Here is my question: For the trans-sexual woman who does not like her penis, but decides against SRS (for whatever reason), what do they want, seek, or desire as physical intimacy or sexual pleasure? I realize that this is a personal or individual thing--but can you make an attempt to generalize an answer based upon you experience and interaction with other trans-sexual women?

For a ggirl, at some point in a relationship, they want to have intercourse or have oral sex performed on their pussy. Yes, they want foreplay, kissing, caressing and cuddling before and after making love (as well as the emotional foundation established in the relationship along the way)--but at some point they want a man (or a woman) to make love to their pussy. What does a trans-sexual woman with a penis that she does not like, want or desire from and with her partner? Sorry--hope this is not too crude.

[GRH]

Larry, I know that I sort of alluded to being asexual. I don't particularly WANT anything from my partner in terms of intimacy/sex. For me, intimacy goes beyond sex, and in my partnership, about a hundred different things rank higher (for me) than sex, such as:

-Friendship
-Financial stability
-The ability to save money and contribute towards retirement
-Parenting (currently have a son, who is the joy of my life)
-Etc.

With that being said, if you are only interested in sexual intimacy I might be able to give some insight. I don't mind being fucked, so long as my penis isn't involved. I tend to think of my anatomy as similar to a woman. Getting fucked...My ass is like my pussy. For me, my penis is like a clit. Do you stroke a clit? Not really. I don't mind a bit of stroking or sucking, but I don't want to be INSERTING it anywhere, as women don't exactly insert their clits to fuck people.

[franalexes]

GRH
I read your second post before I read the first. Thanks for agreeing with me.
Understated and over simplified; a relationship with sex but no respect, honor or commitment can be erotic but not rewarding. A relationship with respect, honor, commitment, closeness, caring and some body contact but without sex can be rewarding and even erotic.
I sometimes have been asked here,"which way to your bedroom Fran?"
Making a judgement about the person asking, I say, "through the church."
It always seems to "deflate" the question. (amoung other things.)

[franalexes]

For Larry

Make out your list of everything a girl wants. Certainly include that "emotional foundation" and put sex as number 1 if you wish.
Now for a gurl ( note spelling ) keep the same list but put sex far down the list, not necessaraly last.
Good boy! You get A+

[LarryP]

Fran & GRH, thank you both for your reply. You both make some very good points, which are greatly appreciated. Peace, lp

[haroldge]

Isn't it a paradox for some girls to dislike their penis and still the penis is a source of orgasm. I understand if they don't want to actively use it but still take pleasure in it in some way.

[smc]

Originally Posted by haroldge

Isn't it a paradox for some girls to dislike their penis and still the penis is a source of orgasm. I understand if they don't want to actively use it but still take pleasure in it in some way.

Try putting yourself in the place of a person born with the "wrong" gender, and then see if orgasms are the most important thing you seek in your life.

[StrangeFool]

Originally Posted by haroldge

Isn't it a paradox for some girls to dislike their penis and still the penis is a source of orgasm. I understand if they don't want to actively use it but still take pleasure in it in some way.

The paradox is, if anything, only going to make it worse.

Think about how some guys would feel about anal sex (receiving end)- they're not claiming that one can't get pleasure that way, they're claiming they don't want to experience that pleasure. Nope, not interested, do not want to do that for recreation. Not even if, just talking about the anatomy, it would be a physically pleasurable act.