anybody else embarassed to like ladyboys ?

[aguy]

Do what you like man...If your ''friends'' don't approve your sexual preferences it's their problem.Not yours.

[Bisatinlover]

Hey,
Screw it man. I've been in Pattaya for nearly a month with a beautiful lb from the Philippines and other than lots of admiring looks from passers by all is normal. If your mates are so against the third sex probably half of them secretly want to try dating them selves. Go for it and enjoy!!!!!

[postopadmirer]

I think what you describe is common every where. It is nice that people are more accepting than in the past but i belive most people would still not feel comfortable admitting an attraction to a transgender person. I think one of the reasons it is a favorite talk show topic is that there is more hidden interest than most would be willing to admit.
POA

[a9127]

Please don?t pay attention to what your ?friends? say. They don?t sound like much of an ?in? crowd to me. I have always been under the impression that Thailand was very ?nonjudgmental? when it came to transsexuals. Perhaps someone with more experience than me such as Hank, ila, or smc could shed some light on this. My feeling is that you have nothing to be embarrassed about. Aguy and Bisatinlover are 100% correct. Maybe it?s time to find some new friends.

[Bisatinlover]

You can find discrete Katoeys here in Pattaya. You have been here before so you know not to pick one up off the street. We met some fellows from Oz last week and we commented on the gold chain and cross he was and suggested he keep it in the hotel. We saw him the next day and a ladyboy dad snatches off his neck. The police charged him 400 baht foe an english translation of the report. This is quite common here.

Best of luck to you and don't mind your friends.

[Maxxy]

Originally Posted by aguy

Do what you like man...If your ''friends'' don't approve your sexual preferences it's their problem.Not yours.

Amen to that and very well said.


Hey zoomrolf, it really shouldn't matter what your "friends" say or think it's your life and if they can't or won't accept it then they aren't true friends.

[zoomrolf]

Like it or not, when we travel, we need 'friends'. Unfortunately, in the western world, to have mates, we have a protocol, a hierarchy, a standard for acceptance. Being male, macho, tough, liking girls and disdaining gay people is unfortunately unavoidable in the 'real world'. Yes it stinks, but it is what it is.

Its kind of like being an Athiest here, which I am. You cant admit it or you are ostracized. To fit it you have to give up part of yourself. Everybody does.

I was really hoping, that when I came to the New World, Thailand, that I could leave this insanity behind. However, my mates, who live in Asia, have not entirely given up their Puritan thinking.

So I guess I will occaisionally take a girl which is fine and when I hanker for a ladyboy, I will skulk around, in the shadows.

[Curiousandnew]

I wouldn't have a problem admitting my interest if I actually found one

[smc]

With all due respect, and I mean that, I think the issue here is the understanding of what it means to be a "friend." A genuine friend wouldn't be the cause of any of what zoomrolf describes in his posts in this thread. Thus, the only conclusion ones can draw are either that a) these are not friends, but marginal acquaintances (in which case, zoomrolf must decide whether having them is more important than living as he pleases), or b) zoomrolf's embarrassment has its source in zoomrolf's own inhibitions, and the "friend" problem is, in essence, a cover.

I pass no judgment on which it might be, given that I do not know any of the actors involved, and I pass no judgment on the choices made as a result.

[zoomrolf]

Perhaps 'friend' is indeed not the word for my contacts in Thailand. Never the less, to travel alone is sometimes boring and in some cases dangerous.
For anyone who travels a great deal, it is good to have 'contacts' who can be there should you have legal or medical issues. I will concede, that these are not really 'friends'.

[Mark_L]

I have never felt embarrassed while walking with a ladyboy friend. On the contrary, it makes me proud to be with such a sweet girl.

[malibu515]

To SMC
Your comments do, indeed, impart that you have made a judgment.