Ungendering and a Lack of Respect

[smc]

Originally Posted by shawnx

I did a post a few days ago and actually made a mistake of using the term real woman, it was a simple mistake and have noted not to use it anymore, at the same time, if someone does use it like i did, just simply remind them to try not to use it and not target them as a bad person like one person did with me. its a simple mistake that a lot of guys make. some tgirls dont like the term shemale. I also find it interesting that someone might find the term real woman disrespectful but yet i noticed a post with a person saying how he likes pulling a tgirls hair while fucking them in the ass , seems to me that would be more disrespectful. thanks for hearing me out.

There is a HUGE difference between the use of the term "shemale" (which is an invention of the porn industry) and the use of the term "real woman" to distinguish GGs from transwomen. In my experience with my transwomen friends, there is a HUGE difference between their reaction to the term "shemale" and their reaction to any statement that implies or states explicitly that they are less of a woman than any other woman.

Language matters. When someone ungenders, he ought to acknowledge the mistake, show his understanding of the error, and pledge to try not to do it again. What he ought not do is attack others or make excuses, because that diminishes the acknowledgment of the error and thus the importance of the acknowledgment.

[corneliusguy]

I plead ignorance, until today. Would it be ok to say Girl or G-Girl VS T-Girl/lady/woman?

[a9127]

Originally Posted by corneliusguy

I plead ignorance, until today. Would it be ok to say Girl or G-Girl VS T-Girl/lady/woman?

If for some reason there needs to be a differentiation, I use the terms “ciswoman” or “transwoman.” Otherwise I simply refer to anyone female as “woman.”

[LBL over]

I am married to a ladyboy who I love with a passion. Superior in every way that maters to any female born in a fully formed female body. She has had SRS and she corrects anybody who calls her a woman and says with pride "I'm a ladyboy" and I love that. After being with her I could never go back with a mere female born in the right body. Have we "ungendered" her? I and her think ladyboys are far more than any mere born in a female body woman can be, the journey they take to get where others are merely born makes them so much more imho?

[cgeissler]

For a time I dated a lovely ladyboy from Pattaya. She was one of the sexiest women I have ever seen. She had everything and something extra. She LOVED to be called in feminine pronouns. I LOVED to call her my girlfriend, particularly when she did particularly un-ladylike things (like pee standing up - true story!).

My most common thing to do has been to remember the end goal. If she's MTF transgender, call her a she! Blimey! It's not rocket science! If he's FTM, call him a HE! Is it so hard?

Much love to all of you who are brave enough to be true to yourselves!