Pre-Op or Post Op?

[BentOverBitch]

Pre-op for me all the way because it helped me learn so much about myself. Like what a fantastic cum guzzling cocksucker I am! LOL Besides, it would make my username obsolete.

[littletwink]

Sexually, I am only interested in pre-op.

For all other aspects of a friendship or relationship, though, pre-op or post-op do not matter to me, because the wholeness of a person is far more than just their physical identity.

Of course, we’re all gathered on this forum because we have a particular interest in transsexual women. This interest might be intellectual, might be of course sexual, might also be only curiosity, and might reach full emotional fascination. The risk we run in allowing ourselves to any such inclinations is to confuse fantasy and reality. Anyone decent who would build a relationship with a transsexual woman would care for her well being first, it seems to me, and not merely for his sexual satisfaction. Now, as it’s been said in this thread (ThirdEyeGirl, most eloquently amongst others), most of them seeks almost desperately the complete physical transition to fit their inner feeling of gender belonging, which they find in the gender reassignment surgery. A small number will, for many different reasons, decide not to go through with that, but will necessarily eventually have to cope with the long term effects of both the hormone replacement therapy and the androgen inhibitors, which are bound to diminish the capacity to “use” the penis actively.
What pornography present to us as the “shemale” is largely a fantasy that has little to do with the situation of these women. We might of course enjoy it and draw sexual satisfaction from it (I do it myself and I love it), but we should always keep in mind that we’re in the realm of the imagination more than anything. Even more so on this forum, considering the privilege granted to us by several transsexual women, gathering with us to exchange and relate. We owe them indeed at least as much as render them such minimal respect.
This being said, should we prefer pre-op or post-op (or indeed non-op)? I find that we should prefer the person with what she feels more comfortable with. There’s nothing as beautiful as a woman who feel good about herself, who’s happy and confident. Nothing more radiant and appealing. Nothing more attractive nor sexier. And that’s what I would be looking for.

[Alana TG]

I must say Dan, that YOU were very eloquent in the above post......and if I'm not being too forward......I'm a little turned-on by your prose.

Originally Posted by Alana TG

I must say Dan, that YOU were very eloquent in the above post......and if I'm not being too forward......I'm a little turned-on by your prose.

I second that sentiment.

Thank you both, Alana and ThirdEyeGirl. And thank you kindly and warmly for your presence here amongst us.