Happily Married

[Melissa Pink]

I don't date married people, period! It's a bad pratice all around for everyone!

[rockabilly]

I am happily married now.

I am lucky in that my wife knows about my previous relationship with a tg and interest in tg porn. She accepts it because I was honest and upfront about it, I didn't try to hide it and made it clear that I am hers and love her with all my heart.

[GRH]

It sounds like you have more of a fantasy than an actual "need" to engage in sex with TG's. You've said yourself that you're happily married. So why risk throwing that away? If you're willing to cheat on your wife, you clearly don't love or value her as much as you proclaim. Especially for your supposed "need" for indulgent sex. Sex is not a need. Period. It's a choice. You can certainly make the choice to cheat or not-- but I don't have a lot of respect for cheaters.

On a different level, I can also relate. My wife and I have had a threesome with an old beau from my childhood. I always thought the guy was a cutie to begin with and I had fantasized about having a threesome with SOMEBODY. Well, one cocaine-binge induced night, that fantasy became a reality. I won't go into the sordid details-- but it was fun. I was horny. I don't regret it.

But it was also weird. There were things I hadn't counted on-- like my friend having body hair (I'm not big on body hair). His penis was also much smaller than I was expecting. The next morning was sort of awkward-- we chalked it up to having been on a cocaine binge. My friend and I ended up drifting apart (not solely due to this), and we no longer talk.

I guess where I'm going is that the sexual fantasy and the sexual reality don't always match. Yes, the threesome was fun on some levels. But the reality of it just didn't live up to my fantasy. There were too many weird and awkward things about. This is often the case when comparing fantasy with reality.

I'd hate for you to risk your marriage chasing a fantasy which may not even live up to your expectations. Conversely, you may have so great a time that you decide to chase nothing but TG tail and you end up divorcing your wife. You can't really say what will happen. But I think some things are best left as fantasies-- particularly when we've made commitments to our partners. Now perhaps your wife would be open to a threesome or an "open" marriage-- I don't know. That may give you some options.

[firsttimecharlie]

Thanks for the feedback! All of you made valid points. I know it is a fantasy and not a necessity by any stretch. I have been masterbating to transgender images and movies since the age of the Internet. Fortunately back then I would cum before the entire image would load. Its just nice to have a place where there are people to speak with openly and honestly. I would never cheat on my wife. I know that in my heart. Now what about a massage by a transgender? These are questions I have always wanted to ask. I hope it's not annoying. I am a very successful self employed business owner with the house In the burbs, a great wife and kid, and even two dogs. But I have all these emotions and thoughts that are constantly in my head. Again thank you all for your honest and caring feedback. Thanks

[smc]

Monogamy has been shown scientifically to be an unnatural state for humans. Why don't you talk to your wife about this "intense infatuation"? If your marriage is as good as you say, and you approach the conversation in a loving way, it may turn out to be a very good thing. Sure, it can be difficult in the beginning, but you never know.

[tslust]

Originally Posted by smc

Monogamy has been shown scientifically to be an unnatural state for humans. Why don't you talk to your wife about this "intense infatuation"? If your marriage is as good as you say, and you approach the conversation in a loving way, it may turn out to be a very good thing. Sure, it can be difficult in the beginning, but you never know.

I've found that some couples are open in their marriage, and don't mind their partner playing with others as long as they're honest about it. Sometimes the wives like to play too.

[Smoothie]

I've never cheated on a gal in my entire life. Given that earnest position, I feel that every person should have fun.

Everyone should be worried about STDs, but if that isn't an issue why declare a person immoral for wanting to have sex? If You have a great family and everything is so great, why care? Can a baseball fan not enjoy a basketball game every now and then? I think respectable forms of adultry should be welcomed, given that both partners are aware that they are seeking human needs in dry times. Just let the fun happen if you feel it is safe for your partner and you.

Just because someone wants sex on impulse out of boredom doesn't mean that they don't love you ANYMORE.

If your wife loves you (and your children if such is the case), understand that she has fantasies just like you. While men masturbate by manipulating their genitals, women can't achieve the same pleasure with imagination alone since a lot of it is about penetration or girth.
If you feel the practice is medically safe, let your wife enjoy as much as you do yourself when you Jerk it.

[tonywaits]

Originally Posted by smc

Monogamy has been shown scientifically to be an unnatural state for humans. Why don't you talk to your wife about this "intense infatuation"? If your marriage is as good as you say, and you approach the conversation in a loving way, it may turn out to be a very good thing. Sure, it can be difficult in the beginning, but you never know.

My wife and I have an open marriage and it works very well for us. But, honesty is very important too. It is cheating if you lie about what you do, even in an open relationship.

[aussiepride]

Originally Posted by smc

Monogamy has been shown scientifically to be an unnatural state for humans. Why don't you talk to your wife about this "intense infatuation"? If your marriage is as good as you say, and you approach the conversation in a loving way, it may turn out to be a very good thing. Sure, it can be difficult in the beginning, but you never know.

What science is that?

[smc]

Originally Posted by aussiepride

What science is that?

If you go to scholar.google.com and enter the search terms "monogamy" and "humans," you will find links to much of the research. A regular Google search of "monogamy" and "humans" and "unnatural" will yield links to popular reporting of the research subject.

I would not make such a claim in the way I did absent genuine backup.