Is there a bias against those still in the closet?

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Originally Posted by valentinetabitha

She knows I'm bisexual, but is unaware of the crossdressing aspect. I have to handle this in steps because she isn't exactly the most open-minded person.

Well she would be very pissed at you at the very least
In a large part for concealing this from her
as honesty is a large part of marriage.
You are not alone on this as almost all tv's conceal this HUGE aspect about themselves.
Thats why I have no wife / ex wife or children...I refused to meet society/family/partners expectations without full disclosure about me>>>>& how the hell do you disclose something about yourself that you don't really understand?

Now wherever you stand on the tg spectrum (& that can be fluid)
You will be like most people just trying to find the best way for you,
to keep the world in balance.

We are in very different places
so I would not be able nor experienced in stuff like yours
to offer any useful coping strategies
which is what you seek.

On the bi-tv/cd/wife thing....no answer for you on open forum
as this is far too deep with too many ramifications for you
But useful for you to chat with others who were in the same place as you.
PM sent.

Originally Posted by valentinetabitha

I can see why those that are fully out can see me as half-assing it, but at the same time every person's situation is different. In my case, I don't want to live my entire life as a woman, but others do. Dressing as a woman, and the desire to perform sexual acts in the, traditionally, woman's role is only one part of my life, and it isn't even the dominant part. I don't feel like I should be compartmentalized or ostracized for feeling that way.

In fact a big reason why I asked my initial question is I found when I went to ask people who have been in my situation, and have since come out to their wives, for advice I found myself rejected or met with ignored friend requests.

Well your wife & almost / everyone you know
don't hang out on tranny boards
& if they did:
1.they wouldn't be likely to out you, as it would out themselves
2.In a dress, wig, makeup they arn't gonna recognise you in the first place, Doh!

If your wife checks your computer to see which sites you visit, she already know your interest in tv cd ts tranny porn, anyway.
If you don't want to put up a pic, thats ok.
And others reactions are for a myriad of reasons.
The fact your question in these places is not fantasy/wank stuff
should tell those people
that your question is genuine.