Taking a Plunge

[siamgirl]

Originally Posted by Bionca

My fella had a bit of bad luck with his roomies. They decided to up and move out of state giving him very little notice. Thankfully his land lord was willing to let him out of his lease, but that left him with limited options on where to live.

This is a guy who almost one year ago dumped me because he was "getting to serious" about me and needed to check his head. He later came back (obviously), but I'm still pretty unsure.

Given that I'm a giant softy, I couldn't exactly let him sleep on his friends' couches (or worse yet unofficially living with me). We have a spare room, that more like an apartment in the basement (giant closet and private bathroom), so we will be letting him stay here with us for the time being.

Things have been getting more serious between us...slowly... so I guess I'll just have to wait and see. I want to be excited and all starry-eyed about this (after all he's been mooning over this for a week), but I just can't. He's a good guy and he's trying. I just can't put my finger on why I'm apprehensive. The only thing I can think of is being gun shy after my ex, and probably missing all the good reading time I got waiting for dates that didn't show up.

So, wish me (us) luck and I hope I can get out of my funk before I become too jaded about relationships to be self-defeating.

Hello Bionca, I personally think your apprehension is not only justified but also very natural . This apprehension is like a safety feature in a car, we hope we will never need that airbag, but its very comforting to know its there. We tgirls will always be apprehensive towards would-be soulmates, and rightly so. We have a lot to offer and we are as sure as hell not going to give it to someone that is unsure concerning our gender. Our highway is a long one before we meet our final destination, we disappoint a lot of family and friends en-route before they realise we are girls and cant change our genes. Most men seem to have a problem with committing themselves wholly to a tgirl, just ask your bf to introduce you to his close friends and family. If he stalls or needs to think it over, forget him. To be honest, I have given up on men and my soulmate is a Japanese g-girl called Honoka. She?s a wonderful person that I can trust and we are proud of one and other. We are inseparable and now her family not only accept me, they really seem to admire me. To put it in a nutshell Bionca, your future soulmate , whether male, female or tgirl, will commit themselves and be proud of you. You are a beautiful lady and deserve the best. Hugs, Cindy

[smc]

The original post of Bionca's in this thread is more than a year old. There has been a lot of "water under the bridge," as a review of Bionca's other posts (visible by going to her profile page and clicking on the link to a list of her posts) will illustrate.

[Bionca]

I actually haven't updated this at all. The fella and I broke up after he cheated and he moved out. We have started kinda dating very casually, but no plans for him to move in again. I live with my prother and his family and they don't need that drama.

[Risquevania]

Are you saying you are back with the person who cheated on you? That's just a bad idea imo. Never a good idea to go back.