a diffent kind of 'admirer'

Originally Posted by GRH

I should clarify my stance. I'm NOT very vanilla and I like bondage and BDSM type stuff. I can understand powerplay.

And if this sort of thing turns you on Anna, then maybe you're not as bothered by it as I am.

But to me, this guy is not engaging you in a deliberate, consensual powerplay. He is engaging in a one-sided powerplay...And not because you necessarily like the feeling of being degraded or ordered around. He's engaging in it because he harbors homophobic sentiments and other issues. To me, the whole thing reeks of instability, and I wouldn't be surprised if this guy was prone to violence after the fact.

That's pretty much what I was trying to get at in my post above - except you put it much better