Does liking shemales make you gay?

Like many others, I first encountered t-girls while surfing the Internet. I am a male in his 30's and have never been attracted to men or ever had sex with another man. Not that I think there is anything wrong with it! My relationships with women have included a marriage of almost 15 years.

The t-girls I have seen on the Internet are very beautiful and I find myself attracted to them in the same way I am attracted to "genetic" women. I do not consider myself "gay" and joined this forum hoping to learn a little bit more about myself and my own sexuality. It has been interesting reading the posts on this topic. Human sexuality is very complex and I don't think there is a simple answer to the "gay or straight" question. I believe it was Kinsey who first said sexual behavior falls on a "continuum." More recently, there was a "Klein Grid" that measured orientation.

A few years ago, the TV show "Cold Case" aired an episode where a teenager falls in love with a t-girl and invites her to the prom. Of course, his father and others react poorly and the relationship has a tragic ending. I found the episode to be a good lesson in tolerance and have often wondered how difficult it would really be to have such a relationship or to live as a transgendered individual. Currently, I live in the mid-western United States where things are perhaps not as tolerant as say, Brazil. My own personal feelings are that it shouldn't matter to anyone but the two people involved. It's no one else's business.

[johndowe]

Hi there.

AW9725, you are 100% right about your "affairs" (of any and all kinds) are your busines and those that are involved in them, but there are two things that you are not taking into concideration.

First: Some people aren't happy unless they're sniffing in other people's busines, trying to find some things that they don't agree with or don't understand.

Second: Ignorenace and stupidity are incurable afflictions.

Combine the two and you got a whole lot of needless BS etc.

What can you do about those people? Well they DO have as much right to be alive as you do, even if they don't think you do, trying to reason with them is ususlly a waist of time, and they often resort to violence when they are out witted, civil wars have started like this.

If you have a rationnal solution, i'd be very glad to hear it, cuse i don't.

JohnDowe.

Nice to meet you. This looks like a pretty interesting place to say the least! I put some information about myself in my profile if you (or anyone else for that matter) are interested in learning a little about my background. As you have already read my earlier post, you know my own feelings regarding transgendered women. If you are curious who, specifically, I find attractive, go check out the pictures I have posted! On a more serious note: Even though my career is in higher education, which typically has been tolerant of diverse views and lifestyles, I feel that I can’t reveal too much about myself for reasons of job security. Someone else posted that the “TG/TS” lifestyle is still considered taboo for many and doesn’t get the respect/recognition that even the “gay/lesbian” community receives. Here in the good old “heart of the USA” that is sadly and most likely true.

Without writing a dissertation on it, I believe it has much to do with fear and misunderstanding and perhaps the presence of stereotypes. From my own perspective, I had never thought much about this until recently. In college, I became friends with several gay and lesbian students. I was married and never felt any sexual attraction toward my gay friends or any desire to “fool around.” I did, however, feel close to them--I have always been kind of a “big brother” to my friends anyway and I used to feel very protective of them--I knew the kinds of things they had to put up with and how hard it was to live that way. I am sick every time I hear about some “hate crime” or murder of a gay, lesbian, or transgendered individual. I remember watching the “Cold Case” episode mentioned in my earlier post with my (now ex) wife. We agreed that something like gender identity shouldn’t matter and how stupid and ignorant people shouldn’t rule what one can or cannot do. I personally would have liked to have kicked the father’s ass (but that is another story).

Anyway, what does one do about ignorance and stupidity? As an educator, I believe that information has power and over time, people can (and do) change. Sometimes, change comes slowly. Sometimes, you have to keep reinforcing the point. I used to teach a class in “project management” where we discussed ways to take the fear out of implementing a new computer system. One of the techniques was to get the employees who actually USED the system involved--to seek their ideas and make them feel that they were actively a part of the “change.” How many times do organizations actually DO it that way though? I think that the “transgendered” lifestyle will take some time to be accepted but there are already TV shows about it and people like Kelly Shore and Vicki Richter have been very outspoken advocates and probably quite effective in helping it to gain acceptance. Others will follow. This forum--and others like it--can serve to communicate as well.

As for how to handle people sticking their nose in other people’s business--the phrase “Fuck Off” comes to mind but you won’t find that in most textbooks. In my professional career, I typically recommend that organizations have policies regarding disclosure of information--and encourage them to be as “open” as possible with employees. For more personal matters--I advocate a combination of incomplete answers and “disinformation.” The old “I am not at liberty to disclose that” or a less diplomatic “it’s none of your business” can work as well. Not everyone or every question deserves an answer. This is the place where I tell my students to “think for themselves”!

Anyway, hope some of this helps to answer your questions and I look forward to talking more with you and others on here. This has been a most interesting Labor Day break! Tomorrow I take the bike out if it doesn’t rain and Wednesday it’s back to class.

BTW I LOVED your definition of “Quartersexual” from an earlier post!

Later...

[Sigma]

Hi everyone!:D

I have been watching transsexual porn for a while. I find transsexuals attractive. As a christian this has been very hard on me. I don't find men attractive. I do find genetic women attractive. At times I feel confused about who I am.

I have read my reports about this question. Most legitimate doctors and psychologist have said men who like transsexuals are straight.

Transsexuals are very feminine. They look and act like women. However they do have a penis. They were born men. There has been research that supports that Transsexuals are intersex. The research has found many transsexuals have the brain structure of a woman and some have different hormone levels.