Should I Go????

[tgsexual]

Originally Posted by aries

express your fears to her.

A.

Not a good tip unless you want to burden and depress her.

Is it just honesty? Perhaps, but don't bog her down in your own problems. Entertain the girl, make an effort to show some enjoyment about the experience. That doesn't mean you're putting a ring on her finger. Just show her she's appreciated.

If you never see her again, at least you both may have a good night. Why give her a shit night and then never see her again?

[newdude]

If you decide not to go, at least tell her you won't be showing up. Every T-girl I know complains about making dates with guys and being stood up. Trust me, the local gals talk and guys who piss off one tend not to get a second chance with another.

[chelsea]

go you pussy

[ila]

Originally Posted by ila

If you have to ask then don't go because you obviously aren't mature enough to handle any kind of relationship.

I stand by my advice, but I needn't have been so harsh. If you have to ask strangers whether or not to go then you are not ready to have a relationship with a transwoman. In time you may find that you are ready and when you are ready then you will know. By that time you won't have to ask anyone whether or not you should visit a transwoman. You will do it because you are ready and you want to and no one or nothing will stop you. That then is the time to go. Most importantly when you are ready you will not disappoint her.

Originally Posted by newdude

If you decide not to go, at least tell her you won't be showing up. Every T-girl I know complains about making dates with guys and being stood up. Trust me, the local gals talk and guys who piss off one tend not to get a second chance with another.

Darned good advice; follow it. Think of the girl and her feelings and not yourself.

[shemaluvr]

just let you drive by your envy and enjoy the moment

[CreativeMind]

Originally Posted by newdude

If you decide not to go, at least tell her you won't be showing up. Every T-girl I know complains about making dates with guys and being stood up. Trust me, the local gals talk and guys who piss off one tend not to get a second chance with another.

Originally Posted by tgsexual

Entertain the girl, make an effort to show some enjoyment about the experience. That doesn't mean you're putting a ring on her finger. Just show her she's appreciated. If you never see her again, at least you both may have a good night. Why give her a shit night and then never see her again?

I basically agree with these two bits of advice the most.

1) If you don't feel like going for one reason or another -- perhaps you're shy or don't feel ready to meet a "really hot TS" just yet...or maybe you're afraid of what might or might not happen when you're together -- then just don't go. No one's twisting your arm. There's no rule that says you HAVE to go. On the flip side, certainly DON'T "do a few shots" (as you put it) and then show up a little bit drunk, and thus send the ultimate insult that you had to be loaded in order to even be there. That would suck too.

So, here's a bit of advice. Just be a REAL man...and a true gentleman...and politely accept or decline the offer. Plain and simple, just let her know one way or the other what you actually want to do. Just be honest with her and show THAT kind of true respect to another human being.

2) Ultimately tgsexual is right. Just because you have a date or get together to hang out for a bit, it doesn't mean you're putting a ring on her finger. There's no long term commitments being made here. We're talking about a simple date. So who knows? Maybe you go and don't hit it off, so you go your separate ways -- no harm, no foul.'

On the other hand, maybe you go and DO have a blast, and get a cool new friend out of the experience.
And who wouldn't like to have more cool friends in life?