Marriage, ladies and gentlemen...

[Mel Asher]

Originally Posted by GGadmirer

Though there's a good chance I will never meet the girl of my dreams, I have often wondered how 'the big step' would affect my social life. Marriage is about sharing and that means I will also share the prejudice and ill treatment my girl is already accustomed to.

I have worked out for myself which of my friends will stick with me and which won't and it turns out that I'm likely to loose quite a few.
While my dad is sure to disapprove, I am on the whole far more optimistic about the effect it will have on my family. Mum is bi-sexual like me and sexually very much a liberated woman. She may be a little shocked at first, but I'm sure she will have little difficulty adjusting to the situation. Perhaps she will even come to envy me a little.
The only person who is currently aware of my interest in trans-women is my very dear sister Anna and she has shown herself to be perfectly at ease with my passion.
As for my dad, well I don't really care much for his opinion. He left us when my sister and I were very young and I don't approve of that either.

Same sex marriages are legal in my country and people have become quite used to the idea of a woman having a wife instead of a husband. This welcome change has however not caused people to adopt a more tolerant attitude towards relationships involving transsexual women. I can therefore not deny that marriage scares me somewhat, but it's not something I would walk away from. Should the right girl ever come along, I will happily tie the knot.

Sorry to read about your Dad, GAdmirer. You seem pretty objective about most of all this. Might I suggest you choose a sympathetic male father-substitute with whom to share your ideas and dreams. There are quite a few of these around, you'd be surprised ! So, the male viwpoint may still have some value, even in your situation.

As for Love. It is such a precious commodity, I would go all out for it, when you feel it's there for the taking. Sadly, Love and Commitment, whatever your sexual choices, is still a step in the dark, such a gamble, especially long-term. I have been lucky that way, but it was not always so. It is all about faith, I guess.

Go ahead and good luck