i can do it.. but i can't do it...

[CreativeMind]

Originally Posted by guest

i guess it has something to do with the rushing of the whole situation.
i call the girl and she just wants to know when and where, that's it.
it kind of makes me nervous to go so fast.

Well, this goes back to my first post.
So here's REALITY CHECK 4 for you...

The fact that she just wants to know when and where and that's all she cares about -- in other words, she's not interested in talking to you a lot more beforehand, in order to "know you" as a person -- should really ram home the point that this is ONLY a business deal for her. She's going to show up, make you feel good, get you off...at which point you pay, she leaves. Wham! Bam! Thank you, Ma'am!

So, it's sort of ironic that you used the phrase "to go so fast" because that's exactly what SHE wants to see happen. She DOES want it to go fast. Again, she's NOT coming to see you to cuddle with you on the couch while watching TV and to chat. NOR is she looking to spend lots of time getting to know you. From what you wrote, I get the impression that deep down inside you'd still like your "first time" to be a bit special...

...Unfortunately, she's looking at her "when and where" watch on her wrist and the comic book thought balloon that is floating over her head REALLY says: "I hope this kid cums fast. I have a 3:00 after this guy, and if I can get through them both by 5:00 then I can work in that guy who just emailed me. Heck, maybe I can even get in that other guy who just left a message on my machine as well. I thought there were only going to be two today, but my bank account will be much happier if I can fuck all 4 of these guys by 9:00."

Gee, for a "first time", it doesn't sound so special when it gets put THAT way, does it, pal?

Originally Posted by guest

ESPECIALLY since i am a virgin (yes, to both tgirls and girls).
i'm only 18 and i'm not used to being physical with any type of girl.
in fact, girls in general make me nervous just casually talking to them.
i can't imagine sex talk.

Look, I hate to be the touchy-feely one here, but given what you wrote, I just think you should take a deep breath...go look at some porn and jerk off...and then think a bit more about what you REALLY want. Seriously, one of the greatest insights into male psychology comes from the movie There's Something About Mary when Ben Stiller is nervously trying to get ready for a big date he's about to go on...the date he's always dreamed of having with Cameron Diaz...at which point Chris Elliot, as his best friend, runs though a check list of things he needs to do. Chris Elliot asks him is he showered and shaved? Check. Is he dressed right? Check. Teeth brushed and mouthwash in? Check? Did he jerk off before going out?

At which point Ben Stiller goes wide-eyed and asks "What are you talking about?" and Chris Elliot shakes his head and says "You mean all this time you've been going out on dates with a loaded gun? Don't you know that the ONLY time when a man thinks clearly...when he can hold a conversation with a woman and actually talk to her as a woman... is AFTER he's blown his load? For guys, that's the only time when we DO think straight!" To which Ben Stiller replies "You're right! No wonder my dates always go bad! I've been going out with a loaded gun!"

So, as Chris Elliot accurately rattles off the terms, go choke the chicken, spank the monkey, flog the dolphin, or unload the gun before you do something now that you'll regret later. Because not to sound too girly here, even for a man your "first time" should be fun and romantic and special and a cherished memory, and so many more things. I know you might feel anxious to "do it"...you might feel it's something you need to do for all sorts of personal reasons all your own...but not to sound TOO old or fatherly here (hey, I'm not that old!), I'm just saying you should do it for the right reasons and because it's something YOU are ready for and because you are doing it with someone you WANT to share yourself with, on THAT intimate a level.

And here's my other 2 cents: anyone here who is telling you to just "go for it" and go with your urges and NOT think things through doesn't have your best interests at heart and is only thinking with an sexual urge. It's almost as if they want to get off vicariously THROUGH you. It's like they want you to go have sex and then come back and post about your "first time" -- with a TS no less! -- which will then give them a possible hot post to stroke off to. Which is utterly silly.

You don't need any of that, pal. This is YOUR life and this should be YOUR special moment and, in the end, this will be YOUR cherished memory for life. Or at least it should be a cherished memory.

And that's the other thing to remember: this is a ONE TIME deal. You don't get a "do over" and there is NO rewind button. What happens will always be your first time -- whether it comes with happiness OR regrets. So with that in mind, since you seem a bit nervous or questioning right now and (by your own admission) your mind is saying "Nooooo", maybe you should wait a bit longer until the time IS right or you DO find that one special person to lose your virginity to. Gee, would I be TOO old fashioned to say you should at least wait till it's someone you actually love? My point is, this should be as spectacular as YOU want it to be. And there's nothing wrong with waiting. Hey, compared to you, I didn't lose my virginity till a few years out -- until after I was out of college and in my early twenties. But you know what? It was great and I'll always remember her and that's something no one can ever take away from me. So don't let anyone take it away from you either, pal.

Originally Posted by guest

so maybe i've answered my own question.. if there ever was a question lol

I think you have, but maybe you just wanted some reassurances from other people or maybe you just wanted to hear other opinions to help you come to a conclusion about the things YOU think and feel. Either way, I think it's good that you're questioning things and not racing into something. So just give it more thought and I'm sure you'll come to the right decision for YOU.

Originally Posted by guest

oh yeah and i'm always afraid of std's.
i mean, most of them say they are clean, but can you actually trust them?
especially for the ones who do it for low price, like 100 bux

Uh...no. You DEFINITELY can't trust the lower budgeted ones. Welcome to a class in Prostitution and Economics 101. There's a reason WHY high priced escorts ARE high priced -- namely, they obviously look good, but they also take good care of themselves and pride themselves on their health safety. Likewise, there's a reason WHY the quick $50 or $100 girl is charging so little. They're simply desperate to make whatever cash they can, from whoever they can, which means they're equally willing to throw caution to the wind...including their health and YOURS...to keep the money rolling in.

So, yes, I think you just answered your own question. Again!

Anyway, sorry I wrote so much, but I thought this was an important topic to discuss.
Best to you, pal, and I hope that no matter what you do, it turns out all right!