Grumblings

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by Bionca

PART ONE: My issue is.. His personality changes when we are in public. He is pretty distant in public and his way of interacting with people is to tease them and poke fun.

PART TWO: New Years Eve we all went out. His brother and friends and a few of my guy's str8 friends (who may or may not know I'm Trans*). I got my guy to dance with me at midnight - then... His brother drunkenly stated "You and your drag queen need to go get a room" and called me a "Hot tranny mess". when I gave him a questioning look.

PART THREE: My fella then started in with the "drag queen" comments AND started to tell his str8 friends about my penis - odd since he was insistent that I not mention anything to them before. My feelings were hurt, but I'm more confused than anything. On one hand, he was comfortable enough to tell his friends (graphically and rather pornographically about our sex life).

BIONCA:

PART ONE: His personality changes in public WITH YOU, because he is very subconscious of your trans status. He is being guarded by showing extreme care with his words and actions, which means he is not 100% comfortable with only a str8 appearance. The fear of being found out, leading to public humiliation.

PART TWO: Gay brother with alcohol reveals his true feelings about his so-called str8 brother's hypocrisy, and his feelings about your trans status in the gay community.

PART THREE: Defense mechanism in survival mode to the maxx!!

He PRETENDS to have no problem you are a tranny/drag queen, and PRETENDS he's using you for only sex, as this big macho dude. Why? His str8 friends cannot come at him as being gay, because he is knowingly sexing a tranny as a macho sex machine to be envied. He hasn't been found out, because he's not hiding--at least, that's the image he's projecting after being exposed by his brother.

PART FOUR: I use tranny & drag queen for effect only, because that's what the brothers (plural) are indicating by their words and actions as you've described.

PART FIVE: Now that the surprise in your panties has jumped out, like a jack in the box, bf might be more comfortable with his tgf down the road apiece.


Hope this helped you make sense of your situation,


TAL