Does it have to get hard?

[sesame]

It's a choice for me between boobs or an erection.. I'm choosing the boobs (and hips, and ass, and soft skin, and not masculinising my skull). Without adding any more stuff in my body - my god recovering from facial surgeries hurt like HELL. Not to mention my forehead ached constantly for 6 months after and my eyebrows didn't have full motion, so It was hard to convey emotion with my face.

I guess you drew a smile in a piece of paper to express your emotions? Or just verbally expressed them? "I am angry now, though I look unperturbed!" or "Grrrr!!"
Anyway, that sounds like penance to extricate something nature is reluctant to give. Its a lot of sacrifice and needs to be appreciated to the last iota.
But then, your partner may have personal preferences. As you can see, some guys are attracted to a hard wiener in a girl!