Does my obsession come from control?

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Originally Posted by FMB

Shockingly I complete disagree. My desire to be in control is based around the idea that if I am in control then women enjoy the experience more. If I found a woman who got more enjoyment from me not being in control then within reason I'd gladly hand over the reigns as it were but in my experience there are not many women like that.

The idea of being in control being a weakness is completely illogical to me no matter how profound one might make it sound.

And in this scenario, who decides if "women enjoy the experience more"? You, a priori?