What stops/stopped you from getting a TS partner?

[british_boy]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

I just asked my partner:
To have a ts partner,
assuming you can find one....
You need to be as barking mad as they are
[guess who's getting no sex tonight!]
If its more than a fling,
you do have a lot to put up with.
The problem is that you can only really understand them if you have some aspects of ts stuff in yourself
and thats the case, you prob don't want a ts partner
as being ts involves being totally self-centred.

The other thing is that ts's are by definition in a state of change
so the person you are with today
is not the person you will be with tomorrow.

Also a ts is more than a woman with a penis.
And if the penis is the big deal, then the admirer will be more than a little disappointed, when it goes.

Got me thinking.....self centred,,,me?!!!

I think your partner made some very insightful points there!

I think I've been very lucky with my partner in as much as she's generally a jolly and positive girl, and completely lacking in selfishness, mood swings and the other things that transitioning girls get accused of.

In fact, perhaps she's not a a TS in the fullest sense of the word, at least by western standards. Let me explain...

She's been living entirely as a girl for ten years now, is very girly, and is on hormones, but she's quite content with the stage of femininity she's reached and has been for some time. She likes her cock because it gives her pleasure, and she doesn't want surgery because she thinks it's too expensive, and it makes t-girls go crazy! (Her words, not mine!) The only thing she would quite like is a boob job to enhance her hormonal A cups, but it's a 'would like' more than a 'need'.

I wonder if it's a cultural thing. Being poor and Asian, her expectations of life are relatively low, and she doesn't have that sense of entitlement that we often have in the west. She's quite a practical person, and she's happy to make do with the level of change she's attained because she can pass in most situations, it's quite easy to maintain, not too expensive, and she can save up for the future, and help her family... whose love and acceptance is what gives her the most joy in life.

Most of all she's just happy that she's got a decent, suportive family, nice friends, and a nice guy (me). Perhaps the reason I fell for her is because she is so sunny, pleasant, thoughtful, and completely lacking in angst or 'poor me' syndrome.