dream came true - now what

[Bionca]

OK I read the last post over again and it's way bitchier sounding than I intended. Without knowing her, the potential that she just likes spending time with you can't be ruled out. Maybe since she's in school she doesn't really have time for something serious. Maybe she does want something serious and thinks that maybe you could eventually like her to the point that you can be serious.

What I feel could become a real problem is all of the omission happening in your life. Your girl doesn't know much about your life, your friends and family don't know much about this part of your life. I've see this happen alot with guys I've seen and mostly with guys my friends see. The end result is often much angst.

Here is a little story - A friend was dating a guy. She knew he was married, was a professional in a high profile position, that there was no chance of them becomming anything other than a part-time discrete affair. She didn't like it, but liked him enough that she was willing to do it. HE fell madly in love with her, he loved everything about her, he couldn't stop thinking about her.

The factors in his life got to the point where he had an emotional breakdown. He went from thinking of my friend as a little something on the side (with a bt extra) - a diversion and temporary at that, to wanting to spend every moment wih her. Because he couldn't reconcile these two parts he snapped.

So be careful with your feelings as well as hers.