what do you find offensive

Well as SMC has stated. Anything that suggests that me or any other trans person on this site is anything but what we are. I.E. Shemale, not a real girl, ladyboy (even though thai girls use that word to describe them selfs), dick-girl. Anything that assumes we are like the girls in porn, or what have you. Everyone is different, so everyone will be or not offended to different things.

For a safe bet, don't ever assume anything, and just use the terms transsexual, TS, trans-girl, or just girl.

And I never really noticed the use of "gurl" before, but now I know it's used to distinguish between trans girls and *rolls eyes* "real girls". I find it offensive as well. It's like world of warcraft players asking if I'm a girl or a G.I.R.L. (guy in real life).