Here's a conundrum... any ideas?

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It's been a few months since you first brought up this topic. If you are still looking to get married to your partner and both of you are registered as female on your birth certificate there is a cheaper alternative than going to Europe. It is legal in Canada for two people of the same sex to get married. It's much cheaper than going to Europe. I would suggest that you try Ontario as the main language there is English. From NYC it is just as easy to cross at either the Thousand Islands or Niagara Falls.
Hope this helps you.