is flirting with a shemale same as flirting with a girl??

[srg.rod]

well i never had sex or even talk to a shemale i am kind of embarance and i feel kind of wrong cause there guys that turn into girls and well i was raised as a catholic and i guess i see that wronng but anyways how do u flirt with a shemale??

[Vanillas]

I am sure there are exceptions to the following but I believe the answer is: One should flirt with a translady the same as he would a genetic female. I have been chatting (online) with transladies on two very different sites. The first is what could be loosely termed a porn site. The models are referred to as shemales and men usually encourage them to either remove (yet another) item of clothing or to perform various sex acts. Perhaps calling such requests "flirting" might be a stretch. Still, the ladies are more responsive to respectful requests than demands and compliments such as "You have a nice smile" seem to go further than "I'd like you to stick that cock up my ass."

The second site is touted as a dating site for transexuals - and their admirers - and consists of a single chat room in which members hold multiple and simultaneous conversations. In this respect it is like a cocktail party and, like a cocktail party, the topics discussed are many and varied. It is all very above board (suggestive usernames are banned) but of course the participants can private message one another and take it to a more intimate level. I have not yet done that but I can tell you that I usually chat differently with members having female names than I do those with male names. Put differently, I am more apt to engage in flirtatious talk with the former. And (finally) here is my point: Without even knowing what stage in the transition process a given Translady is, I find myself talking/flirting with her no differently than I would a gg lady.

I hope this helps.

[srg.rod]

thanks i give it a shot

[Bionca]

You flirt with a Trans* woman, the same as you flirt with any other person. You make eye contact, try to strike up a conversation, feel like a fool for a few minutes, and hope for the best.

One thing I will caution you about is feeling embarrassed or guilty. We see that all the time and it gets pretty old pretty quick. Make sure that you are OK with yourself before you try to meet someone face-to-face.

Don't build us up to be some sort of mysterious exotic treat. We are above all else people and above that individuals. We each have specific likes and dislikes so there is no real "how to.." with Trans* as there is with cis* men or women.

[Creedence]

You want to know how to flirt with a transsexual woman?

You just flirt exactly how you would normally.

[rockabilly]

Good tips Bionca , But i have a shy personality and when i try flirting i sound foolish. I send messages to a tgirl i think is smart and pretty but i think i sound like a fool Am i just hopeless or what

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Bionca

We are above all else people and above that individuals.

That's the point I've always been trying to make...feebly... you are above all, and above all YOURSELF!

So well put, Mizzy B

h

[rockabilly]

It's so poetic in it's simplicity yet so elusive in practice. Like Morrisey said "it's hard to stand tall when your small", being self concience is my problem. But getting to know someone first lets me get into a comfort zone and open up more ( no pun intended )

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by srg.rod

well i never had sex or even talk to a shemale i am kind of embarance and i feel kind of wrong cause there guys that turn into girls and well i was raised as a catholic and i guess i see that wronng but anyways how do u flirt with a shemale??

The same way you flirt with any other girl... simple... easy... and totally much more fulfilling! She'll rock your world, mano...

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by hankhavelock

The same way you flirt with any other girl... simple... easy... and totally much more fulfilling! She'll rock your world, mano...

Let me elaborate a wee bit...

I flirt a lot... even still with cis*women... and I'm sure you know the dynamics of that game...

The thing is that when I meet trans*women then it tends to be after we have already established our gender ID status... as a matter of fact, the flirtation starts at a restaurant or at home when we have already found out that we find one another attractive...

And then the flirtation lasts too shortly...

DAMN, I miss a situation, where I can actually go out and flirt with a little trans*her like crazy... the game of getting her interested, the courtship, her eyes down, her giggling, her being hard to get... let her make me crazy!

But unless you go out and date a trans*woman without you knowing her gender ID, then part of the flirting has already gone into technicalities.

Hmmm... I gotta think about this for a while... I have a new thing to learn here...

Well, I HAVE met and flirted with trans*girls a lot... but thinking this over I haven't flirted enough... the entire concept of trans* has sort of given it another edge... sort of like the mystery has already been broken...

Sort of like we have just been too eager to go to bed... or go out to dinner... or get into a relationship... the flirtation has not been artful enuff...

Ok, I have to change this... I'm an ass... I only realize this now...

My goodness, I have so much to learn... and so much to just take for granted as wonderful!

H