Question for tladies

[Dearka]

I will say this, I have never been with a tgirl. I have only ever been with biological females. That being said I recently came across a young woman who, had someone not told me, I would honestly never have guessed was transgender. In the span of a few hours I enjoyed just getting to know them and being able to talk was much easier. While I was only visiting the area (had to burn vacation days) and doubt I will ever see them again, it did make me wonder. I am not gay (not that there is anything wrong with that) and have always desired women but the comfort of the conversation made me realize that the ease with which you can talk and simply be is much more readily available with a tgirl than a biological female possibly due to understanding a male mentality to a point. Assuming the physical attraction is there , it is something I'd consider exploring more. But then I run across this.....

Many sites that discuss relationships with tgirls seem to present the notion that most tgirls want to be "taken" rather than give, yet when I see sites like this and many others, it always seems that the men prefer the tgirl to do the work so to speak. That being said, doesn't that ruin the concept of being a girl when you are the one using your penis for penetration?

I mean no disrespect to the guys here but it seems like most men who seek a tgirl tend to be more submissive and desire to be the "catcher" (sorry if that offends)and it almost seems like the concept of an LTR with one is virtually non existent as a result. As a guy myself, I doubt I could ever be on the receiving end as I am a guy and my personality has that dominant aspect and I'd want a girl who wants to be the girl.So my questions for the tladies is this, do you prefer a man to be the man or do you like to be the one giving? Do these views cause most tladies to simply forgo relationships altogether?

[thegirlinblue]

Hmmm, interesting thoughts.

I have to say that from my perspective I love both, and I enjoy having sex with women just as much as men. I don't think one has to be the "Catcher" as you put it or the "Giver" why can't we be both. I mean maybe not every time but maybe sometimes dominant and some time submissve.

I love rough and sometimes it is nice to just lay back and take it if you know what I mean. But then other times it's all about me and I just want to fuck somebodies brains out. So to answer your question from my point of view it's not about a man being a man, what ever that means. Trans* folk are pretty much like anyone else we have desires and want to be loved but that doesn't mean we all want it the same way nor does that mean that we all want it at all. You have to remember that there are many people that just aren't interested in sex at all.

[bigboy4012]

Not being transgender I can only guess, but I would imagine that even if you perhaps don't have the type of genitals you'd prefer, to fully enjoy the pleasure of sex you've got to use what you've got.

I'm sure SMC will be along in a bit to tell you the 'correct' answer, and tell me I'm being ungendering or some crap lol

[franalexes]

Dearka,
There are probably as many answers to your question as there are grains of sand at the bottom of the sea.

Big Boy; LOL We should have a chat over a cup of coffee some day.
Your "smc" comment seems very accurate.

[smc]

Originally Posted by bigboy4012

... I'm sure SMC will be along in a bit to tell you the 'correct' answer, and tell me I'm being ungendering or some crap lol

Originally Posted by franalexes

Dearka,
There are probably as many answers to your question as there are grains of sand at the bottom of the sea.

Big Boy; LOL We should have a chat over a cup of coffee some day.
Your "smc" comment seems very accurate.

Hey, actually, I agree completely with franalexes, but I'm glad to serve bigboy4012's instinctive need to get in a defensive cheap shot just in case. After all, when it comes to ungendering, he knows of what he speaks (even if it's not in this thread).

[franalexes]

Goodmorning smc. the wink hides my chuckle.

[bigboy4012]

Originally Posted by smc

Hey, actually, I agree completely with franalexes, but I'm glad to serve bigboy4012's instinctive need to get in a defensive cheap shot just in case. After all, when it comes to ungendering, he knows of what he speaks (even if it's not in this thread).

lol sorry, couldn't resist. And look, There was the message I knew you were going to come up with!