I have a question...

[DaGH0ST]

I am not gay, I do not like men at all. I DO like shemales, am I gay?

[jimnaseum]

Shemales aren't men, Ghost. I'm going to say you're not gay, just a guy.

[DaGH0ST]

Thanks, I am just curious you know? It is like when I watch shemale porn it really turns me on and it takes me to a new level. I think it is because I have had a lot of sexual partners. Safe sex of course. I really love tits and cocks but only on girls. Gay sex does nothing for me. I really enjoy the look of a Strong buff dude banging the hell out of a shemale or a really hot girl but not another dude... damn I am confused. I have never experienced a shemale.

[transjen]

I consider mysely female , Just because you like girls like me doesn't mean you're gay, Maybe you like us because we are a little differnt from your eveyday girl you know something new and a little extra, If you start dreaming about Brad Pitt then you should worry Jennifer

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by DaGH0ST

I am not gay, I do not like men at all. I DO like shemales, am I gay?

First of all, there have been lots of threads about this topic here. Browse through some of them.

No, you're not gay for being attracted to trans-women. You may have slight bi-sexual tendencies, but not even that is given.

I know quite a few gays - and never have I met one who would be the slightest attracted to a trans-woman. Gay-men are attracted to men, not women - and a trans-woman is, indeed, a woman.

So relax and instead of worrying about labels do enjoy your new-found attraction.

H

[merelypink]

Nooooo!!!!!!!!!! and who cares about labels anyway

[franalexes]

Originally Posted by DaGH0ST

I am not gay, I do not like men at all. I DO like shemales, am I gay?

Nope. Feel better now?

[yaya65]

You are who you are, don't worry label yourself as anything!

[fionahavelock]

Originally Posted by DaGH0ST

I am not gay, I do not like men at all. I DO like shemales, am I gay?

you not straight either lol... and shemales were born as male..
good question by the way...

[racquel]

Gay guys are attracted to masculinity. Straight guys are attracted to femininity.

If you wanted to be very strict about it, you could argue that gay means you're attracted to genetic guys and straight means you're attracted to genetic girls, but is that really reasonable? What if there was a drag queen that was 100% male but 100% passable as a female and you made out with her? Obviously that doesn't make you gay because you were attracted to the femininity and had no idea.

Shemales are not male and not female, though. The female form is the the embodiment of beauty in a way that the male form isn't. Girls are very aware of this and accentuate their beauty, even if they're not attracted to other females. The penis is the embodiment of sexual power. Guys are very aware of this and obsess over penis size and construct phalli as a symbol of their power, even if they're not attracted to other guys.

For many, shemales are the perfect fantasy. Guys know that girls aren't always that into them, or not all that into sex. Some girls are total nymphos, but it's more about their self-esteem problems than it is about the guy. Guys end up feeling like rapists who are supposed to feel bad about their sex drive. Sometimes you just have to say to a girl, "You've got issues, and my penis is not your therapist." But things are different with a shemale. Most guys just swoon when they see they've given a shemale a raging hardon. They know she is totally into him and can't think of anything else.

Females are really the ones with all the sexual power. They usually dictate the terms of sex to men. In a way shemales flip that around. Guys become very addicted to the feeling of putting a tgirl into a fog of lust. I don't think there's anything gay about that, though.

As hankhavelock said, gay guys are attracted to masculinity. I have a lot of wonderful gay friends. I wouldn't exactly say they treat me like a sister -- I mean, I've had gay guys kiss me pretty passionately, and I've had gay guys paw at me, too. But as a rule there's no real relationship potential there. They'd rather be with a man.

Besides, why do you even care about labels? Gay or straight is a paradigm that doesn't take into account where most people actually are sexually, and it really isn't suitable for anything involving transgender people.

[malibu515]

face it...your gay

[smc]

Originally Posted by malibu515

face it...your gay

Face it ... yours is a useless contribution that reveals no genuine thought given to the question whatsoever, not to mention no evidence that you've read the extended discussions on this topic in other threads where people confront this question and offer meaningful advice to members who are genuinely struggling with their self-identity.

[Elonar]

Originally Posted by DaGH0ST

I am not gay, I do not like men at all. I DO like shemales, am I gay?

Don't get too upset or confused, DaGHOST, my friend. There is a wealth of discussions on this very site with really good, sound advice on this subject. You only have to take out time specially to read others people's contributions on this important subject.

As for Malibu515's so-called contribution : in my view it was contemptible, and I think smc said it all very pointedly.

In short Malibu515's post was utterly worthless, and should merit a warning for time-wasting.

for a fellow searcher

[racquel]

He just wanted to up his post count by digging up a 4+ year old thread and demonstrating his lack of grammar skills.

[sebation13901]

No you are not gay because you still like everything about a woman but you enjoy something a little different than others. It's not a bad thing at all.

[cos4x]

Seems you are just like me. I dont like men, but love a nice shemale. They are girls on the inside after all.

No you are not gay if you like transwomen. There are a lot of places on here where this topic is discussed at length.

But why are so many responding to a poster who's profile states "Last Activity: 11-24-2008 12:02 AM"? Hell I was still married to my first wife back then!

[smc]

Originally Posted by aw9725

... But why are so many responding to a poster who's profile states "Last Activity: 11-24-2008 12:02 AM"? Hell I was still married to my first wife back then!

Most of us who commented recently were responding to malibu515's insipid post, not the OP. Therein lies the answer to your question.

Here's my question: why hasn't your first wife chimed in?

Originally Posted by smc

Most of us who commented recently were responding to malibu515's insipid post, not the OP. Therein lies the answer to your question.

Here's my question: why hasn't your first wife chimed in?

malibu515's post was indeed insipid but it appears that at least two of the recent posts referred to DaGhost's OP.

As for my "ex" you will just have to ask her--I'm sure she's a member. Or else her attorney...

[franalexes]

Originally Posted by smc

Here's my question: why hasn't your first wife chimed in?

Ordinarily, you are not a funny person; but this one brought more than a chuckle and a smile.

[marksantos]

Originally Posted by cos4x

Seems you are just like me. I dont like men, but love a nice shemale. They are girls on the inside after all.

i agree.same as me

[alinuus]

Hello to everybody,and I want to ask you.I'm 38 years old,and are very much attracted Shemale,in my computer I only shemale pictures and movies,i watch with great pleasure.It all started at 18-19 years I never had an experience with a shemale and I would very much.Every time I revisit films and photos I want to be and I like them and this almost daily,are not attracted to men.Can you tell me what you happen to me?Wait for response.

[triplej]

I agree with almost everyone. Preferring transgendered persons with penises instead of vaginas does not make you gay. The lines of gender and sexuality are so blurry and fluid that even the binary of heterosexual and homosexual with "bi" somewhere in the middle just doesn't do the world justice.

I think if you're attracted to someone, no matter what gender/sexuality, that's all that matters. And if you can find a lasting, loving, trusting, life-fulfilling relationship with someone you're attracted to sexually that just makes it all the better.

That's not to say that there isn't a certain type of identity or culture that you can identify as "homosexual" or "heterosexual." I'm sure if you were attracted to what the majority of society and western culture identified as "male" and you identify as "male" then you can feel free to identify as "gay." But, I know plenty of people who identify as "male" and are attracted to "male" others (no matter what the plumbing looks like) that still don't associated with gay culture or identify as "gay."

All these labels are socially constructed. If they work for you, great! If not, fuck it. I wish there was some way to embrace our attraction for transgender and transexual persons. But as it stands, the only label I know of is "tranny chaser" or other derogatory terms. Calling me a "tranny chaser" is as offense as calling a transgendered or transexual individual a "chick with a dick." She's a she (if that's how "she" identifies). Just like I'm a "he" (since that's what I identify as). I'm a "he" attracted to people who identify as "she." And if she has a penis then chances are I'm going to be as equally physically attracted to that person as if they had a vagina. End of story.

[Dun Dun]

Man if you really like Tgirls then just roll with it. I saw some shemale porn vids a few times back when I was 14 or so and then didn't really see a few more until I was 17 or 18 and didn't really think much of it. Then by the time I was 20 I saw a few more and started to question what was going on but I found that I liked what I was seeing and didn't really give a crap after awhile.

[TSloverboid]

I've always thought this needs a sticky. It is a valid question, that should always be at the top of the list.

[alinuus]

Ok, thanks for the answer, but more and more I want to become a shemale, and that's the problem,in my country to talk to someone about it is a problem.We need a psychological counseling?.I am very confused.I ask for advice, you can make a hormone treatment, without medical assistance?Thank wait for response

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by alinuus

Ok, thanks for the answer, but more and more I want to become a shemale, and that's the problem,in my country to talk to someone about it is a problem.We need a psychological counseling?.I am very confused.I ask for advice, you can make a hormone treatment, without medical assistance?Thank wait for response

A shemale or a woman?
The first is sexual fantasy
the second is gender dysphoria.
Either way, if this is an urgent and continuous thought/need for you;
1. Go and talk to your doctor, or find a gender psychologist or gender councillor,
or
2. Look up on Google: LGBT SUPPORT GROUPS + your country name & talk to them for contact numbers of professionals and local LGBT groups that may assist you

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by DaGH0ST

I am not gay, I do not like men at all. I DO like shemales, am I gay?

If you and I are in a gay bar,
the men there are only going to be attracted to you.

Does that help?

[JanieTgirl]

You can only answer that for yourself. For me, I've always considered myself female. I have always, thought, felt, ahhh pretty much everything female. I have always desired men, I know I'm not gay as being a female (mind, thought, words and actions) I want a man. I am a woman who desires a man, exclusively. My heart knows. You will one day know for yourself, once you truly know yourself and accept yourself. Are you a woman or a man? Are you transgender, crossdresser, transvestite (and the sub-categories go on)? You must know and decide for yourself. Don't be hard on yourself either. Some of us know instinctively and for some it takes research, learing ans soul searching. Be safe and be well.