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Originally Posted by liteblacklite
Do you think it's almost like Little People (Midgets)
They, LP's have always had to sell themselves their whole lives,
because of their obvious shortcomings, (snick) 
hence they make good sales people...
Do you think somehow T-girls Ladyboys Trannys, etc...
Get caught up in this compulsion to sell themselves, (not carnally)
necessarily, but sometimes, I mean, in the way they might
seem to feel like they always have to prove themselves as
legitimate, even though, they might be far more legitimate than
the person or people making them feel unworthy of simple decency
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It's not a compulsion, it's a matter of survival. A woman needs to be twice as good as a man to be taken seriously - a trans woman has to be twice as good as a cis woman. The price of failure is extreme.
When people find out I'm trans, I have to justify every part of my life, every hobby I have, every article of clothing I own, every medical choice I have made. I have no reasonable expectation to privacy as everything from the status of my crotch to how I have sex is fair game for discussion. My childhood becomes the object of everyone's pet theories and facts/feelings/observations are equally discounted or inflated to make my experience fit/prove those same theories.
After all of that - my legitimacy is still always paper thin. My safety hinges on that legitimacy, so my personal safety is always in question all day every day.