[Bionca]

I have to deal with assholes mis gendering me all the fucking time when they know I'm trans. I have to literally sometimes fight to have my identity recognized. I had to take a brief trip in a week for work it was a good opportunity to meet some clients - I had to turn it down because it was an international flight and my passport will always read "M" and I just don't want the same grief I got the last time.

I get to hear "you can't use the bathroom - you are a man" at work. I was refused a place in a domestic violence shelter when a date beat the shit out of me and I was afraid of him returning - because the "real women" may be uncomfortable with me being there.

Over the past few months HERE on a site populated by guys who claim to dig girls like me - mis gendering goes largely unchallenged. This is honestly and literally a matter of life and death of us. A matter of personal safety as well as dignity. When I or another trans woman challenges this we either do it alone, get talked AT like we don't know what we are talking about (you know we just live it), or coddled with "I'd never call you a boy to your face".

With the exception of some very fine guys Ila and Hank for sure Rockabilly, Angry Postman, S-Donkey to name a few (and there are more) it's the TGs who do the talking. It's tireing and it's frustrating because we do it ALL THE TIME.. sometimes EVERYDAY.

I'm tired of the fight in places where I shouldn't have to. I'll be back- I don't know when.