Thanks for honest answers , i guess because some of this is sexual fantasy perhaps the term that adds to your fantasy might be the best for each individual ?

Also i think the person who is perhaps the shemale/tranny has a different take on the whole matter and therefore has a whole other way of looking at the 'labels' that are given to them

I dont think any right or wrong , just individual choice i guess

Happy to agree that transexual does sound clinical though