[Vanillas]

I believe sexual orientation, and certainly sexual experience, to be far more fluid than most people realize. The only self-descriptor for me is bisexual, although this term can certainly have multiple meanings. At the very least it means that I have had sex with both men and women. However, what it doesn't say is that, although I have had far more male than female partners, I have been emotionally closer and in actual relationships with nearly all the women and only one of the men. Yet there was a long period in my life when I identified exclusively as gay and two even longer periods when I considered myself straight. And what of the person who has fantasies of sex with a same sexed person yet never acts on them. I think in the end terms like gay or straight fail us - and even bisexual is, at best, limiting.