hmm... I'm new to this forum, but I'll put in my two cents, and I hope it's much more valuable.
First of all, any attractive woman is going to be chased by ugly guys and fat guys. If you look good, everyone's going to want to be with you. I haven't seen pics of you, but maybe you're attracting black guys because you're curvaceous. Black men tend to like women that have more curves, but that's really beside the point.
As to why you haven't found your perfect match, I would say, have a little more patience. True, that sucks, and I'm an impatient person myself. I would have thought I would have been married by now for sure, but I'm not.
The more you learn about yourself and understand what you want, the more likely you are to date the correct people, but your choices will be far more limited.
I think the last thing you should do is lower your standards. However, understand that if you're waiting for the perfect match, and if you have high standards, it may take time, maybe more time than you're willing to give at the moment, but it will happen.
Nothing occurs unless you think positive. I know most people think that's bullshit, but I'm a believer of self-destiny, not fate. You can create the life you want, and you can put yourself in the position to find the right man.
Maybe you need a new approach? Perhaps there are new avenues for you to explore in finding the man of your dreams. Be creative, and think outside the box. Happiness could come to you on any given day.
I hope this helps
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