I'm confused by something you said, since it seems to be a contradiction of itself.
At one point you said...
"I have spent countless hours in conversations regarding online love, online boy friends and friends. I know myself well enough to know that I can not fall in love with someone on line...fall in love with their typing...their written words is beyond my understanding. Maybe it is truly the "Lonely Hearts Club" members that so desperately long for love and a partner to share their world with. Maybe there really is a part of the man that drives him for acceptance(and love) that I still don't understand.
My first instinct is to laugh when I chat with a man on line that says he has a girl friend...
but yet has never met her face to face....but really I should be feeling sadness I think."
But THEN you turned right around and said...
"I'm not afraid to admit that I have jumped on a plane a few times to cross many times zones to meet that "special person" that after months of phone calls, e-mails and chatting "we" felt we were a match."
My point is this: if you spent MONTHS of phone calls, e-mails, and chatting with someone...someone who you felt was that "special person"...isn't that
the very definition of being an online girlfriend to someone? Or at least you were until you finally reached a point -- months later (by your own words) -- when you finally felt compelled enough to jump on a plane and go meet that person?
If you're the type of person who "can't fall in love with someone online or their typing", that's fine, I can understand that. Some people just need to "see" and "touch" the other person before their inner emotions can truly kick in. At the same time, I
also don't take anything away from two people who DO fall in love online -- where they spend lots of time together (albeit in a digital way) getting to know each other, at which point they feel something very strong between them.
Basically, here's how I see things. Obviously if two people are going to have an ACTUAL relationship...that is, if they're both looking to build an ACTUAL life together...then clearly the day is going to have to come where the two lovers ACTUALLY meet. That's a given. I just wouldn't go so far (as you did here) to declare that people who have met online and are engaged in an Internet relationship are part of a "Lonely Hearts Club" -- nor would I laugh at a guy who says he has an online girlfriend (or a woman saying she has an online boyfriend) simply because they haven't met yet. Using yourself as an example, if people have been chatting online or caming with each other on a regular basis...if they've been sending e-mails to each other all the time...and if they've even talking on the phone as much as they can...then I have no problem with them feeling a strong attraction or even love, and thus making a decision to commit to each other until they CAN actually meet.
Think of it this way: what if two people meet online...fall for each other...stay in constant touch...and the reason they haven't met yet is simply due to economic factors? For example, the guy lives in America...the girl lives in Russia...and he needs time to save up the money to buy her a plane ticket? Or an even better example -- which is actually the bane for most online love affairs -- would be an American guy falling for a foreign woman online, but then they have to wait for the Visa process to go, which actually can take months at a time. Not to mention, it also adds to the cost factor and might cause he guy to need even MORE time to save up the money he needs to bring the girl to him.
Using that example, I can easily see two people considering themselves boyfriend and girlfriend...they can genuinely be romantically attracted to each other and have developed very real feelings for one another...but what's
really holding them apart is legal paperwork and a Embassy approval process that's completely out of their control.
Anyway, your posts show a deep thinking intellect, you express yourself well, you clearly feel certain things, your photos show you are very lovely, and I hope you can find the kind of guy that your heart hopes to be with. Everyone deserves to find love in life, so I wish you all the best. If nothing else, it was an interesting post as always, Lydel. I didn't necessarily agree with the first part, but I would agree with the second half that to find the kind of guy you actually want to meet that perhaps you might have to GO to a place where your odds will dramatically increase. Again, that just makes logical sense.
I mean, if I was looking to meet a beautiful Thai Ladyboy to share my life with, hoping to bump into her each day, I wouldn't want to be living in Bulgaria!
